She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
danielzxc said:290 is pretty good. (Maybe not for powerlifters, but for someone who works out more for looks, it is excellent.)
My best is 250 x 3. But that was when I was 200lbs, now I'm 185 (5'10). Haven't tried a single with anything heavier, but I probably could have got 265 for one.
Chest/bench has always been my weakest part/lift. I'm comparatively a fair bit stronger on other lifts. I would LOVE to have a strong bench, like say 300 x 5. Maybe I'll get there. I'm cutting at the moment, so my strength is way down, so I'll have to wait a few more months at least.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Some people are just naturally very strong.danielzxc said:Fkk it, if u have to get fat to do it. That's BS to me.
There's one guy at my gym who does 350 and he's about our size/height (but shredded). I STRONGLY suspect him of being on gear though. I mean, that kind of strength, and his workouts are not powerlifter style workouts, it's just very suspicious.. pretty cool if it's natural though.
No joke,I saw some guy barbell benching and check this out....He started off w/ 1 plate and added a plate a side every set,he did 4 sets. When he loaded the 8th plate I just stopped and watched,I had to see how many reps he was doing,he pushed out 4! Wtf?! I wonder what his max is!!!! Guy looked like he weighted about 220 or so,not too big but damn that guy was an Ox.simon said:Some people are just naturally very strong.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.