You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
danielzxc said:290 is pretty good. (Maybe not for powerlifters, but for someone who works out more for looks, it is excellent.)
My best is 250 x 3. But that was when I was 200lbs, now I'm 185 (5'10). Haven't tried a single with anything heavier, but I probably could have got 265 for one.
Chest/bench has always been my weakest part/lift. I'm comparatively a fair bit stronger on other lifts. I would LOVE to have a strong bench, like say 300 x 5. Maybe I'll get there. I'm cutting at the moment, so my strength is way down, so I'll have to wait a few more months at least.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Some people are just naturally very strong.danielzxc said:Fkk it, if u have to get fat to do it. That's BS to me.
There's one guy at my gym who does 350 and he's about our size/height (but shredded). I STRONGLY suspect him of being on gear though. I mean, that kind of strength, and his workouts are not powerlifter style workouts, it's just very suspicious.. pretty cool if it's natural though.
No joke,I saw some guy barbell benching and check this out....He started off w/ 1 plate and added a plate a side every set,he did 4 sets. When he loaded the 8th plate I just stopped and watched,I had to see how many reps he was doing,he pushed out 4! Wtf?! I wonder what his max is!!!! Guy looked like he weighted about 220 or so,not too big but damn that guy was an Ox.simon said:Some people are just naturally very strong.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.