Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
How many times to work muscle group per week?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
It's very common to see a Mon1-Wed-Fri-Mon2 where Mon1 and Fri are the same muscle groups and the same with Wed and Mon2. So you have about 96 hours since your last workout of the same muscle groups assuming you work out at the same time of day.
When I started out about 2 yrs ago, I was pretty much lifting 50-60 lbs for all my lifts. There are some real concrete reasons I started so low. I won't go into those now, but check my post history, you'll see.
Bottom line is, if you are way below your potential threshold, I think it's fine to go frequent. I've finally reached the point where I am squatting, deadlifting almost 1.5x my bodyweight, and my benching is past by bodyweight...I can't lift as often as I used to. I keep wittling away my days because I seriously risk overtraining.
Listen to your body. My legs talk to me the most
If I'm overreaching, they will tell me. At the beginning, work out every day if you can take it. Fine tune your schedule.It would help if you told us your basics: goals, bodyweight, lifting weights.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
Working out before the muscles fully recover leads to muscle breakdown.
I didn't believe it at first, but made the change and blasted through a plateau that I'd been hung on for years.