"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How many #'s should I be trying to get a week?

SharinganUser

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Simple practical question. How many #'s should I be trying to get a week?

I don't approach many women on a weekly basis, but now that my confidence is up and I think I should start being more proactive. I've found that shyness is really just a bad habit and when I've worked on it, even though the shyness was still there, my body would just take over and my mouth would open and I would say something funny. But the last month I haven't been in the habit (of approaching) and didn't get back into it until last thursday.

What can I do to keep the ball rolling? How many # closes should I be aiming for on a weekly/daily basis?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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donArjun

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I've asked this question before,

you can't go on #-closes a week , ..its not in your control how many
you can however do solid approaches..

the I am at work from 8 to 7 Mon-Fri by 7 pm I am so tried....plus you want to make sure you are groomed and well kept before going into the field.

you should be able to say " Hi, my name is, whats your name ? " and feel that is it not forcing on her...

* you should be able to go up to her and have a good 5 minute conversatin, if she doesn't have that much interest in you to have a 5 min conversation, then You can rest assured there won't be much out of it.

* you should always be number closing...and feel comfortable shes going to give it.

if you can't met those requirements, then it wasn't an approach ,dont count it and go back and do it again.

Again I will say it again, its not THE NUMBER of approaches you do..
Its the quality of approach and how confidently you do it. I 've told you
what is a good approach is....just work on doing a good one of those each day....not easy in its own right.

my recommendation , I am getting more into acting skills as I feel that having the ability to "turn on" and and be able to get into the mindset when your in the field would be great. Like for example, I have work and parents who sometimes are on my mind, which might make me a little unconfident or tired out, but being able to do both at the same time, manage my job, living at home, and Djing but being able to be sharp, to suddently turn "on" a more extrovert of myself when necessary. It has some to do with you own self image, and thats another long dicussion ( basically you don't want to bash youself down all the time, and accentuate the positive) ...try to be flexible with what you've got , to take advantage of what ever opportunities you've got now is far more important of a lesson to learn in life, thats more of teh important lesson to learn in life, is that nothing in life is a perfect rose bud or is perfectly set for you. YOu have to learn that you need to be flexible, adjust yourself accordingly learn and have that will to move on. thats is what makes you a better person or a better man, that attitude , that mindset ..

That is what you need to train youself for..

to become a "real" man ?
 

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3 solid #s is better than 20 random #s........focus on getting #s from good prospects that could turn into dates.........but play the #s game (get as many numbers as humanly possible, use the internet also)

use the internet - sunday night for 2 hours, just message 200 girls the same exact thing, and when u get home from work lets say on tuesday nightm u will have 50 screen names waiting for u and u could easily get 10 numbers right there already! Read my myspace instructions :)
 

donArjun

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also, life is a balancing act...you have to try to achieve a balance. its not all just about the numbers. thats is where the real success occurs. anyway, i think I've hijacked your thread enough. peace
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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cyp6

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When i was practicing the same thing a while back, what I did was tried to get every girls number I could, weather ugly or hot. The way you have to think is this, all your doing when you aproch a girl is giving them the opertunity to give you thier number, then it becomes less like your tring to take some thing from them, but its more like them tring to give you some thing.
 
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