"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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How many #'s should I be trying to get a week?

SharinganUser

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Simple practical question. How many #'s should I be trying to get a week?

I don't approach many women on a weekly basis, but now that my confidence is up and I think I should start being more proactive. I've found that shyness is really just a bad habit and when I've worked on it, even though the shyness was still there, my body would just take over and my mouth would open and I would say something funny. But the last month I haven't been in the habit (of approaching) and didn't get back into it until last thursday.

What can I do to keep the ball rolling? How many # closes should I be aiming for on a weekly/daily basis?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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donArjun

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I've asked this question before,

you can't go on #-closes a week , ..its not in your control how many
you can however do solid approaches..

the I am at work from 8 to 7 Mon-Fri by 7 pm I am so tried....plus you want to make sure you are groomed and well kept before going into the field.

you should be able to say " Hi, my name is, whats your name ? " and feel that is it not forcing on her...

* you should be able to go up to her and have a good 5 minute conversatin, if she doesn't have that much interest in you to have a 5 min conversation, then You can rest assured there won't be much out of it.

* you should always be number closing...and feel comfortable shes going to give it.

if you can't met those requirements, then it wasn't an approach ,dont count it and go back and do it again.

Again I will say it again, its not THE NUMBER of approaches you do..
Its the quality of approach and how confidently you do it. I 've told you
what is a good approach is....just work on doing a good one of those each day....not easy in its own right.

my recommendation , I am getting more into acting skills as I feel that having the ability to "turn on" and and be able to get into the mindset when your in the field would be great. Like for example, I have work and parents who sometimes are on my mind, which might make me a little unconfident or tired out, but being able to do both at the same time, manage my job, living at home, and Djing but being able to be sharp, to suddently turn "on" a more extrovert of myself when necessary. It has some to do with you own self image, and thats another long dicussion ( basically you don't want to bash youself down all the time, and accentuate the positive) ...try to be flexible with what you've got , to take advantage of what ever opportunities you've got now is far more important of a lesson to learn in life, thats more of teh important lesson to learn in life, is that nothing in life is a perfect rose bud or is perfectly set for you. YOu have to learn that you need to be flexible, adjust yourself accordingly learn and have that will to move on. thats is what makes you a better person or a better man, that attitude , that mindset ..

That is what you need to train youself for..

to become a "real" man ?
 

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3 solid #s is better than 20 random #s........focus on getting #s from good prospects that could turn into dates.........but play the #s game (get as many numbers as humanly possible, use the internet also)

use the internet - sunday night for 2 hours, just message 200 girls the same exact thing, and when u get home from work lets say on tuesday nightm u will have 50 screen names waiting for u and u could easily get 10 numbers right there already! Read my myspace instructions :)
 

donArjun

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also, life is a balancing act...you have to try to achieve a balance. its not all just about the numbers. thats is where the real success occurs. anyway, i think I've hijacked your thread enough. peace
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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cyp6

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When i was practicing the same thing a while back, what I did was tried to get every girls number I could, weather ugly or hot. The way you have to think is this, all your doing when you aproch a girl is giving them the opertunity to give you thier number, then it becomes less like your tring to take some thing from them, but its more like them tring to give you some thing.
 
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