parkthebus
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Oct 6, 2015
- Messages
- 500
- Reaction score
- 148
- Age
- 39
I've read so many different answers and reasons to this question you wouldn't believe. How many reps/sets should you do and why? What are the different outcomes?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
And how many sets per muscle per week (or workout)?In short, it doesn't matter. It's made out to be a mountain when it's a molehill. But I personally prefer the higher end, I've been doing 8 reps for a long time now and recently switched to 12 because I feel it gives me more control and thus better stimulation. I also mix it up with drop sets, I'll put on a weight I can't do for more than 4-8 reps and then I lower it and crank out 8-4 more. Just do what feels good for you.
I have three main movements: t-bar row, dips and one leg press. I do 3 sets of those twice a week, 3 other sets for each muscle twice a week, I usually make every last set of an exercise a drop set, and work out 4 times a week. That's basically it, there are some more details but I won't bother with them unless you want to know because it's not necessary.And how many sets per muscle per week (or workout)?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.