"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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how many plates [can] are you spinning?

md3sign

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I'm relatively new to this and I only have 2 solid plates going right now, trying to add another one but so far no luck. It's working out great, but I still find myself having to really tightly schedule everything else (work school gym). I wouldn't mind having 3-4 actually. So, how many do you have in the works, what's the most you've had going (by plates I mean those you've seen on a regular basis for at least a few weeks) at one time and how did it affect everything else?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Ace of Flames

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I have one that's always spinning in the background, and then I had another when I was with my ex. So 2.

Right now I only have that constant one. Meh...
 

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I've had around 8 going at once.. Keep in mind, these are just girls I'd meet online, bang and they'd call again a couple weeks later and want some more. It got kinda silly... Frequently, I would hit a different girl on Fri, Sat and Sun. Ahh...2005...lol. Spinning that many girls is not easy though -- I'd get one girl's story mixed up with a different girl..I'd bring up a topic that I thought one girl was talking about and she would say, "I don't know what you're talking about" or the worst was when I asked a girl about that tattoo I saw on her back when she didn't have a tat - it was on a girl I hit the night before :nervous: She got really pissed b/c she knew I was talking about a different girl. Eventually, the ones I didn't want to fcuk anymore got the hint that I wasn't interested anymore, when I'd tell them I was busy every time they wanted to stop by.

Currently, I have 3 f-buddies. Ages 19, 26 and 31. When one starts feeling horny, she'll email or text me something like, "Hi, babe" or "What are you doing tonight?", then she'll come over. I don't call them and we don't talk for more than 5 min, unless they're at my place. Strictly sex. :cheer:
 

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I feel ya on the stories issue. Haven't had it happen yet (knock on wood), but it's definitely crossed my mind more than once and I would have to catch myself before saying something I wasn't 100% sure was accurate. 3 sounds like a pretty good number without interfering too much with your normal life, especially when your plates take YOU out :rockon:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Four is a good number for me. Any more and I begin forgetting who's who, way too much work.
 

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At the minute only 1 chick because I don't really have any time whatsoever for more... casual fvck buddies are the name of the game, but I don't know if they count towards this thread because they don't really require any kind of maintenance...

3 is a comfortable number if I'm trying to juggle though...
 

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2, maybe 3. i usually focus more on one and on go out with one. I leave the others as considerable options in case the first doesnt work out.
cant spin anymore than that tho, i prefer to have some time to myself instead of going to 10 different HB's
 

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I only focus on 1 girl at a time, I don't date 2nd or 3rd best, (how do the guys over 25 find the time and effort to date more than 1 girl ?? do you care about them?)
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Drum&Bass said:
...how do the guys over 25 find the time and effort to date more than 1 girl...
We know the difference between dating and spinning plates. ;)
 

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3 right now. 3-4 is the top number i can do without going nuts. The phone calls the text messages both at inconvinent times, it starts getting to be too much of a hastle.
 

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ER!C L!VE said:
I've had around 8 going at once.. Keep in mind, these are just girls I'd meet online, bang and they'd call again a couple weeks later and want some more. It got kinda silly... Frequently, I would hit a different girl on Fri, Sat and Sun. Ahh...2005...lol. Spinning that many girls is not easy though -- I'd get one girl's story mixed up with a different girl..I'd bring up a topic that I thought one girl was talking about and she would say, "I don't know what you're talking about" or the worst was when I asked a girl about that tattoo I saw on her back when she didn't have a tat - it was on a girl I hit the night before :nervous: She got really pissed b/c she knew I was talking about a different girl. Eventually, the ones I didn't want to fcuk anymore got the hint that I wasn't interested anymore, when I'd tell them I was busy every time they wanted to stop by.

Currently, I have 3 f-buddies. Ages 19, 26 and 31. When one starts feeling horny, she'll email or text me something like, "Hi, babe" or "What are you doing tonight?", then she'll come over. I don't call them and we don't talk for more than 5 min, unless they're at my place. Strictly sex. :cheer:
LOL Dude, that's awesome. You're the online pimp.

One main, one sub main and I'm trying to work on these 2 girls that work by my apartment to get a F-buddy thing going.
The main is a really good girl, wife material, but Im nowhere near ready for that and neither is she. She's is pretty busy but always ready to make some plans. Awesome girl but I can't quite tell where we're at and whether Im handling it right. Sub-main is a girl that works at my gym, this may be a mistake.
I think I need to restart fresh and use the knowledge of this forum to see if I can do better.
 

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Woohoo I got plate number 4 going! And all was right with the world.

I'm amped about this last one because it's the hot asian I've been feinding after for a month and a half now. That's the last one though. I can't deal with more than four. If I want another one, I'll have to disqualify and cut contact with one because there isn't enough time in the week for my tactics to work on more then 4 at a time.
 

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3 bro
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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