"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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how many plates [can] are you spinning?

md3sign

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I'm relatively new to this and I only have 2 solid plates going right now, trying to add another one but so far no luck. It's working out great, but I still find myself having to really tightly schedule everything else (work school gym). I wouldn't mind having 3-4 actually. So, how many do you have in the works, what's the most you've had going (by plates I mean those you've seen on a regular basis for at least a few weeks) at one time and how did it affect everything else?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Ace of Flames

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I have one that's always spinning in the background, and then I had another when I was with my ex. So 2.

Right now I only have that constant one. Meh...
 

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I've had around 8 going at once.. Keep in mind, these are just girls I'd meet online, bang and they'd call again a couple weeks later and want some more. It got kinda silly... Frequently, I would hit a different girl on Fri, Sat and Sun. Ahh...2005...lol. Spinning that many girls is not easy though -- I'd get one girl's story mixed up with a different girl..I'd bring up a topic that I thought one girl was talking about and she would say, "I don't know what you're talking about" or the worst was when I asked a girl about that tattoo I saw on her back when she didn't have a tat - it was on a girl I hit the night before :nervous: She got really pissed b/c she knew I was talking about a different girl. Eventually, the ones I didn't want to fcuk anymore got the hint that I wasn't interested anymore, when I'd tell them I was busy every time they wanted to stop by.

Currently, I have 3 f-buddies. Ages 19, 26 and 31. When one starts feeling horny, she'll email or text me something like, "Hi, babe" or "What are you doing tonight?", then she'll come over. I don't call them and we don't talk for more than 5 min, unless they're at my place. Strictly sex. :cheer:
 

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I feel ya on the stories issue. Haven't had it happen yet (knock on wood), but it's definitely crossed my mind more than once and I would have to catch myself before saying something I wasn't 100% sure was accurate. 3 sounds like a pretty good number without interfering too much with your normal life, especially when your plates take YOU out :rockon:
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Four is a good number for me. Any more and I begin forgetting who's who, way too much work.
 

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At the minute only 1 chick because I don't really have any time whatsoever for more... casual fvck buddies are the name of the game, but I don't know if they count towards this thread because they don't really require any kind of maintenance...

3 is a comfortable number if I'm trying to juggle though...
 

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2, maybe 3. i usually focus more on one and on go out with one. I leave the others as considerable options in case the first doesnt work out.
cant spin anymore than that tho, i prefer to have some time to myself instead of going to 10 different HB's
 

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I only focus on 1 girl at a time, I don't date 2nd or 3rd best, (how do the guys over 25 find the time and effort to date more than 1 girl ?? do you care about them?)
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Drum&Bass said:
...how do the guys over 25 find the time and effort to date more than 1 girl...
We know the difference between dating and spinning plates. ;)
 

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3 right now. 3-4 is the top number i can do without going nuts. The phone calls the text messages both at inconvinent times, it starts getting to be too much of a hastle.
 

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ER!C L!VE said:
I've had around 8 going at once.. Keep in mind, these are just girls I'd meet online, bang and they'd call again a couple weeks later and want some more. It got kinda silly... Frequently, I would hit a different girl on Fri, Sat and Sun. Ahh...2005...lol. Spinning that many girls is not easy though -- I'd get one girl's story mixed up with a different girl..I'd bring up a topic that I thought one girl was talking about and she would say, "I don't know what you're talking about" or the worst was when I asked a girl about that tattoo I saw on her back when she didn't have a tat - it was on a girl I hit the night before :nervous: She got really pissed b/c she knew I was talking about a different girl. Eventually, the ones I didn't want to fcuk anymore got the hint that I wasn't interested anymore, when I'd tell them I was busy every time they wanted to stop by.

Currently, I have 3 f-buddies. Ages 19, 26 and 31. When one starts feeling horny, she'll email or text me something like, "Hi, babe" or "What are you doing tonight?", then she'll come over. I don't call them and we don't talk for more than 5 min, unless they're at my place. Strictly sex. :cheer:
LOL Dude, that's awesome. You're the online pimp.

One main, one sub main and I'm trying to work on these 2 girls that work by my apartment to get a F-buddy thing going.
The main is a really good girl, wife material, but Im nowhere near ready for that and neither is she. She's is pretty busy but always ready to make some plans. Awesome girl but I can't quite tell where we're at and whether Im handling it right. Sub-main is a girl that works at my gym, this may be a mistake.
I think I need to restart fresh and use the knowledge of this forum to see if I can do better.
 

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Woohoo I got plate number 4 going! And all was right with the world.

I'm amped about this last one because it's the hot asian I've been feinding after for a month and a half now. That's the last one though. I can't deal with more than four. If I want another one, I'll have to disqualify and cut contact with one because there isn't enough time in the week for my tactics to work on more then 4 at a time.
 

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3 bro
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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