funketekun
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how many girls are you seeing now. Not ****ing yet?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
how many plates are u spnning right now?
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
tsmith2334
Master Don Juan
at the moment, none. i asked a girl out to dinner last week but she had already made plans with a girlfriend. i'm probably going to ask out a different girl in a week or two, but i doubt she'll say yes.
kinda sucks to be me right now.
kinda sucks to be me right now.
duke007
Master Don Juan
positive thoughts dude!tsmith2334 said:
CORVETTE06
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Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
I would not be seeing a girl if I were not fvcking her, but I have two GFs right now. Both of them want to get married, but that would involve me not having two GFs any more, so I am not in a hurry to change anything.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Lord Shinra
Senior Don Juan
Currently 4. I'm working on some other ones next week.
Maxtro
Master Don Juan
Right now it's more than I can count on one hand. But not enough to count on two.
IMO this whole plate spinning thing seems like utter nonsense. How am I supposed to spin two or three plates if I can't even spin one?
IMO this whole plate spinning thing seems like utter nonsense. How am I supposed to spin two or three plates if I can't even spin one?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
What types of problems are you having?Maxtro said:
DavenJuan
Master Don Juan
Maxtro said:
i think you are missing the premise then.
trying to spin ONE plate defeats the purpose. you shouldnt even be thinking "okay...ill get one plate, then move to plate two, then three"
you are trying to spin "multiple plates" at one time. i think if you concentrate on SEVERAL plates, this problem with starting to spin ONE will inevitably take care of its self.
your time, effort, and energy is NEVER focused enough on a single plate that it even deserves this kind of attention.
LostAndConfused
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zero.
slitherjef
Senior Don Juan
None. A couple fell off and broke and a couple never got spinning.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Gustav Yavo
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Got a gf. First girl ive actually genuinely like in almost 4 years. Virgin, tons of **** in common, similar tastes, values ect. Fvck lol the more i write the more i realize how fvcked im gonna be when we break up...
Maxtro
Master Don Juan
My problem seems to be, me being unable to make a connection with any girl and get her interested in me. I think it all comes down to the energy or lack thereof that I am putting out and that girls are feeling. I don't really know how to describe it or what is even wrong with me. But I am 100% certain that something is wrong.Francisco d'Anconia said:
In all honesty I would love to spin plates. It's a fantasy of mine to have 4 or 5 girls that I can have sex with when ever I want. But right now it seems almost impossible to spend any quality time with a woman.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
The novelty of having sex with two different women on the same night is wearing off 
Whats happening to me now is they're all getting annoyed that i'm not giving them much attention!
I've realised something too... its good they're getting annoyed because I must be having some effect on them... before in my AFC days (I still am a small bit AFC) they'd just ignore me or see me as the nice guy but feel nothing for me. Only a few weeks ago I was getting dates cancelled but now I'm the one cancelling them!
Proof that the less attention you give them the more the want you..
I've realised something too... its good they're getting annoyed because I must be having some effect on them... before in my AFC days (I still am a small bit AFC) they'd just ignore me or see me as the nice guy but feel nothing for me. Only a few weeks ago I was getting dates cancelled but now I'm the one cancelling them!
Proof that the less attention you give them the more the want you..
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.