"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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how many plates are u spnning right now?

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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tsmith2334

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at the moment, none. i asked a girl out to dinner last week but she had already made plans with a girlfriend. i'm probably going to ask out a different girl in a week or two, but i doubt she'll say yes.

kinda sucks to be me right now.
 

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tsmith2334 said:
at the moment, none. i asked a girl out to dinner last week but she had already made plans with a girlfriend. i'm probably going to ask out a different girl in a week or two, but i doubt she'll say yes.

kinda sucks to be me right now.
positive thoughts dude!
 

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I would not be seeing a girl if I were not fvcking her, but I have two GFs right now. Both of them want to get married, but that would involve me not having two GFs any more, so I am not in a hurry to change anything.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I would have to say 3.... the other 2 are locked in but live acouple of hours away due to going to school somewhere else. Hopefully more to come =)
 

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I'm seeing 2 chicks right now. Fvcking one of them I just met, the other one isn't letting me fvck her anymore, but I still see her... I'm about to drop her soon.
 

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I've 4 interested. 3 dates lined up though looks like 1 has cancelled. Its great in one way but i don't want to be messing people around either like I was messed around. Still better than having oneitis! :)
 

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Right now it's more than I can count on one hand. But not enough to count on two.

IMO this whole plate spinning thing seems like utter nonsense. How am I supposed to spin two or three plates if I can't even spin one?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Maxtro said:
Right now it's more than I can count on one hand. But not enough to count on two.

IMO this whole plate spinning thing seems like utter nonsense. How am I supposed to spin two or three plates if I can't even spin one?
What types of problems are you having?
 

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Maxtro said:
Right now it's more than I can count on one hand. But not enough to count on two.

IMO this whole plate spinning thing seems like utter nonsense. How am I supposed to spin two or three plates if I can't even spin one?

i think you are missing the premise then.

trying to spin ONE plate defeats the purpose. you shouldnt even be thinking "okay...ill get one plate, then move to plate two, then three"

you are trying to spin "multiple plates" at one time. i think if you concentrate on SEVERAL plates, this problem with starting to spin ONE will inevitably take care of its self.

your time, effort, and energy is NEVER focused enough on a single plate that it even deserves this kind of attention.
 

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one. have a girlfriend. (kind of ironic because i swore i'd never have another one after my last gf)
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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zilch. I got rid of all my old female friends over the past month and am trying to start anew.
 

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Got a gf. First girl ive actually genuinely like in almost 4 years. Virgin, tons of **** in common, similar tastes, values ect. Fvck lol the more i write the more i realize how fvcked im gonna be when we break up...
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
What types of problems are you having?
My problem seems to be, me being unable to make a connection with any girl and get her interested in me. I think it all comes down to the energy or lack thereof that I am putting out and that girls are feeling. I don't really know how to describe it or what is even wrong with me. But I am 100% certain that something is wrong.

In all honesty I would love to spin plates. It's a fantasy of mine to have 4 or 5 girls that I can have sex with when ever I want. But right now it seems almost impossible to spend any quality time with a woman.
 

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Whats happening to me now is they're all getting annoyed that i'm not giving them much attention!

I've realised something too... its good they're getting annoyed because I must be having some effect on them... before in my AFC days (I still am a small bit AFC) they'd just ignore me or see me as the nice guy but feel nothing for me. Only a few weeks ago I was getting dates cancelled but now I'm the one cancelling them!

Proof that the less attention you give them the more the want you..
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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