Bible_Belt
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How many of you would take back a cheater ?
She probably cheated because I was cheating on her first
She probably cheated because I was cheating on her first
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
How many of you would take back a cheater ?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Cheating requires deception. High quality women are not deceptive. Once a cheater always a cheater holds true in 99.9% of all cases. If a woman cheats once, odds are she will do it again. If a woman is a serial cheater odds are she is a cluster B. There are plenty of women in the world. Wy would you invest your time with a low quality cheating one?
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If she cheated on you with me, you should take her back and off my hands.....because obviously she couldn't resist this beautiful specimen of a male human.
MrNiceGuy23
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I agree with those saying it's not black and white. There is a limitless number of reasons people cheat, and a limitless number of circumstances that would invite someone to cheat.
In my opinion, a one time thing could be forgiven depending on the when and why in my relationship. If it's a new relationship there is no excuse for it, but in a long term relationship if it's one mistake and she knows the wrong, then it's not worth ending the relationship for that one error in judgement.
In my opinion, a one time thing could be forgiven depending on the when and why in my relationship. If it's a new relationship there is no excuse for it, but in a long term relationship if it's one mistake and she knows the wrong, then it's not worth ending the relationship for that one error in judgement.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Johnny Alias
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Not a chance in sweet screw... and I'll tell you why from my own experiences...
You're not the first person they've cheated on. They actually get off on it. They love the deception, drama, and intrigue of it all. IT'S EXCITING!!!!
One of my exes was a bona fide sociopath. Lied whenever she opened her mouth kinda bad. We were engaged, broke up, and she wound up with another dude... cheated on him with ME for a year. Played us off against each other in the end. Cluster B B1tch. She also cheated on the guy before me... with me.
It becomes like a drug for them. That rush. That excitement. She WILL do it you again and crush your self-esteem. She's an addict. What's more she doesn't CARE!
You're not the first person they've cheated on. They actually get off on it. They love the deception, drama, and intrigue of it all. IT'S EXCITING!!!!
One of my exes was a bona fide sociopath. Lied whenever she opened her mouth kinda bad. We were engaged, broke up, and she wound up with another dude... cheated on him with ME for a year. Played us off against each other in the end. Cluster B B1tch. She also cheated on the guy before me... with me.
It becomes like a drug for them. That rush. That excitement. She WILL do it you again and crush your self-esteem. She's an addict. What's more she doesn't CARE!
LiveFreeX
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NO and NO.
Anyone who does is a loser PERIOD.
Anyone who does is a loser PERIOD.
Who Dares Win
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I would take her back temporary and then plan the breakup according to my terms.
For example keep using her for sex or even do stuff I wouldnt do otherwise like swinging, then once found a worth replacement I would drop her.
If she was the one cooking, just dropping her at the spot would complicate my life so first it needs to be done a breakup plan.
Sure thing is that she would be downgraded to fvck buddy status with no rights or appeal once terminated the process.
For example keep using her for sex or even do stuff I wouldnt do otherwise like swinging, then once found a worth replacement I would drop her.
If she was the one cooking, just dropping her at the spot would complicate my life so first it needs to be done a breakup plan.
Sure thing is that she would be downgraded to fvck buddy status with no rights or appeal once terminated the process.
HyperAnalyze
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I would only take her back only to put her in her place. :/ that's just me though.
Plus you have to imagine her on all fours getting rode up the bungholio, only to be proceeded with a gigantic meat pipe about to get the valve uncranked.
Plus you have to imagine her on all fours getting rode up the bungholio, only to be proceeded with a gigantic meat pipe about to get the valve uncranked.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
This is dangerous talk right here which puts you squarely in a position of zero power. Most people mistake love for attraction/desire. Your body and millions of years of evolutionary processes designed for procreation and the perpetuation of the human species is what is happening with you right now. It is powerful but it can be overcome.mikey2012 said:
I'm guessing you are not together with her at the moment and that you are still alive which negates your statement that you can't live without her.
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It is. I think if he took her back the relationship wouldn't last because she would know this and he will be slave and she would leave eventually.:-) said:
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Nope, I would not.
Even though it's not black and white, as someone said, for me it's not so much about any obscure principle or even forgiveness or emotional turmoil or any of that jazz, it's about trust, plain and simple. Once you've lost it, you won't get it back. Regardless of if I was amused or mentally and emotionally crushed by her actions, I still would not take her back. She's done it once and proven that she does not value me or my emotions, trust or thoughts, hence I am not worth the effort not to cheat, hence I would be dumb as **** to take her back. It's myself and my own health I'm thinking of here. Doing the right thing for myself is not always easy but it sure as hell is better.
If I don't think about myself, nobody else will. And since she cheated, she proved that she won't.
Even though it's not black and white, as someone said, for me it's not so much about any obscure principle or even forgiveness or emotional turmoil or any of that jazz, it's about trust, plain and simple. Once you've lost it, you won't get it back. Regardless of if I was amused or mentally and emotionally crushed by her actions, I still would not take her back. She's done it once and proven that she does not value me or my emotions, trust or thoughts, hence I am not worth the effort not to cheat, hence I would be dumb as **** to take her back. It's myself and my own health I'm thinking of here. Doing the right thing for myself is not always easy but it sure as hell is better.
If I don't think about myself, nobody else will. And since she cheated, she proved that she won't.
Agree. Looks like the verdict is unanimous . Doing is still difficult especially if she is hot, but I guess going along will only setup yourself for more trouble later. In the real world I think most people would give another chance hoping things will be different but it never is. All you get is further misery and wasted time but biting the bullet is hard since you take the pain upfront. Many would like to believe things are different even if they know there will be pain later they rather delay it or give it a chance and hope things will be ok. It will be naive to think after this episode it will be happily ever after.Merris said:
If the conditions that allowed the affair were ELIMINATED and a plan of recovery was in place and she provided "just compensation" then yes I would take her back.
Trust should NEVER be blind.. Always verified until your bored of verifying. No secret second life allowed. Be totally transparent in all things.
Epi
Edit: other variables include kids or not. Married or not. If not married and no kids.. Gone. Dating is an interview for marriage. You cheat.. You failed the interview.
Trust should NEVER be blind.. Always verified until your bored of verifying. No secret second life allowed. Be totally transparent in all things.
Epi
Edit: other variables include kids or not. Married or not. If not married and no kids.. Gone. Dating is an interview for marriage. You cheat.. You failed the interview.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.