Bible_Belt
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How many of you would take back a cheater ?
She probably cheated because I was cheating on her first
She probably cheated because I was cheating on her first
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
How many of you would take back a cheater ?
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Cheating requires deception. High quality women are not deceptive. Once a cheater always a cheater holds true in 99.9% of all cases. If a woman cheats once, odds are she will do it again. If a woman is a serial cheater odds are she is a cluster B. There are plenty of women in the world. Wy would you invest your time with a low quality cheating one?
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If she cheated on you with me, you should take her back and off my hands.....because obviously she couldn't resist this beautiful specimen of a male human.
MrNiceGuy23
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I agree with those saying it's not black and white. There is a limitless number of reasons people cheat, and a limitless number of circumstances that would invite someone to cheat.
In my opinion, a one time thing could be forgiven depending on the when and why in my relationship. If it's a new relationship there is no excuse for it, but in a long term relationship if it's one mistake and she knows the wrong, then it's not worth ending the relationship for that one error in judgement.
In my opinion, a one time thing could be forgiven depending on the when and why in my relationship. If it's a new relationship there is no excuse for it, but in a long term relationship if it's one mistake and she knows the wrong, then it's not worth ending the relationship for that one error in judgement.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Johnny Alias
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Not a chance in sweet screw... and I'll tell you why from my own experiences...
You're not the first person they've cheated on. They actually get off on it. They love the deception, drama, and intrigue of it all. IT'S EXCITING!!!!
One of my exes was a bona fide sociopath. Lied whenever she opened her mouth kinda bad. We were engaged, broke up, and she wound up with another dude... cheated on him with ME for a year. Played us off against each other in the end. Cluster B B1tch. She also cheated on the guy before me... with me.
It becomes like a drug for them. That rush. That excitement. She WILL do it you again and crush your self-esteem. She's an addict. What's more she doesn't CARE!
You're not the first person they've cheated on. They actually get off on it. They love the deception, drama, and intrigue of it all. IT'S EXCITING!!!!
One of my exes was a bona fide sociopath. Lied whenever she opened her mouth kinda bad. We were engaged, broke up, and she wound up with another dude... cheated on him with ME for a year. Played us off against each other in the end. Cluster B B1tch. She also cheated on the guy before me... with me.
It becomes like a drug for them. That rush. That excitement. She WILL do it you again and crush your self-esteem. She's an addict. What's more she doesn't CARE!
LiveFreeX
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NO and NO.
Anyone who does is a loser PERIOD.
Anyone who does is a loser PERIOD.
Who Dares Win
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I would take her back temporary and then plan the breakup according to my terms.
For example keep using her for sex or even do stuff I wouldnt do otherwise like swinging, then once found a worth replacement I would drop her.
If she was the one cooking, just dropping her at the spot would complicate my life so first it needs to be done a breakup plan.
Sure thing is that she would be downgraded to fvck buddy status with no rights or appeal once terminated the process.
For example keep using her for sex or even do stuff I wouldnt do otherwise like swinging, then once found a worth replacement I would drop her.
If she was the one cooking, just dropping her at the spot would complicate my life so first it needs to be done a breakup plan.
Sure thing is that she would be downgraded to fvck buddy status with no rights or appeal once terminated the process.
HyperAnalyze
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I would only take her back only to put her in her place. :/ that's just me though.
Plus you have to imagine her on all fours getting rode up the bungholio, only to be proceeded with a gigantic meat pipe about to get the valve uncranked.
Plus you have to imagine her on all fours getting rode up the bungholio, only to be proceeded with a gigantic meat pipe about to get the valve uncranked.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
This is dangerous talk right here which puts you squarely in a position of zero power. Most people mistake love for attraction/desire. Your body and millions of years of evolutionary processes designed for procreation and the perpetuation of the human species is what is happening with you right now. It is powerful but it can be overcome.mikey2012 said:
I'm guessing you are not together with her at the moment and that you are still alive which negates your statement that you can't live without her.
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It is. I think if he took her back the relationship wouldn't last because she would know this and he will be slave and she would leave eventually.:-) said:
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Nope, I would not.
Even though it's not black and white, as someone said, for me it's not so much about any obscure principle or even forgiveness or emotional turmoil or any of that jazz, it's about trust, plain and simple. Once you've lost it, you won't get it back. Regardless of if I was amused or mentally and emotionally crushed by her actions, I still would not take her back. She's done it once and proven that she does not value me or my emotions, trust or thoughts, hence I am not worth the effort not to cheat, hence I would be dumb as **** to take her back. It's myself and my own health I'm thinking of here. Doing the right thing for myself is not always easy but it sure as hell is better.
If I don't think about myself, nobody else will. And since she cheated, she proved that she won't.
Even though it's not black and white, as someone said, for me it's not so much about any obscure principle or even forgiveness or emotional turmoil or any of that jazz, it's about trust, plain and simple. Once you've lost it, you won't get it back. Regardless of if I was amused or mentally and emotionally crushed by her actions, I still would not take her back. She's done it once and proven that she does not value me or my emotions, trust or thoughts, hence I am not worth the effort not to cheat, hence I would be dumb as **** to take her back. It's myself and my own health I'm thinking of here. Doing the right thing for myself is not always easy but it sure as hell is better.
If I don't think about myself, nobody else will. And since she cheated, she proved that she won't.
Agree. Looks like the verdict is unanimous . Doing is still difficult especially if she is hot, but I guess going along will only setup yourself for more trouble later. In the real world I think most people would give another chance hoping things will be different but it never is. All you get is further misery and wasted time but biting the bullet is hard since you take the pain upfront. Many would like to believe things are different even if they know there will be pain later they rather delay it or give it a chance and hope things will be ok. It will be naive to think after this episode it will be happily ever after.Merris said:
If the conditions that allowed the affair were ELIMINATED and a plan of recovery was in place and she provided "just compensation" then yes I would take her back.
Trust should NEVER be blind.. Always verified until your bored of verifying. No secret second life allowed. Be totally transparent in all things.
Epi
Edit: other variables include kids or not. Married or not. If not married and no kids.. Gone. Dating is an interview for marriage. You cheat.. You failed the interview.
Trust should NEVER be blind.. Always verified until your bored of verifying. No secret second life allowed. Be totally transparent in all things.
Epi
Edit: other variables include kids or not. Married or not. If not married and no kids.. Gone. Dating is an interview for marriage. You cheat.. You failed the interview.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.