Play the Game
Master Don Juan
Not for fun, but just to see what the competition is doing?
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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Yup. Have you, mushroom, or anyone else for that matter had a conversation with a girl who reads cosmo alot?MushroomGod said:Not surprised a women's magazine would encourage **** tests
so very truealiasguy said:What gets me about Cosmo is how there are all these articles about sex --- how to drive him wild in bed --- 10 sex secrets he wishes you knew --- how to spice it up.
Yet, a lot of women are cold fish in bed. Do they even READ the "TIPS"? I'll bet about HALF don't ever apply them. Even when I rip them up, and make them do things they've never done (which is SO common that it AMAZES me -- how could they have never DONE x, y, or z before?) many are bereft of initiative. Too many just lie there. I like the ones who are enthusiastic.
This one chick recently (who's old enough to have already learned a thing or two) who was reasonably enthusiastic in bed, said, "Wow, I just realized that before, I'd been having BORING sex all my life." So, even though I was sorta flattered, I'm thinking: "B*itch, why don't YOU get crazy? Why is it all those other guys' fault? I'm not THAT much different than them. You oughta bring something to the table." But I didn't say it.
This post is pretty tangential, but the Cosmo question just got me thinking about this. The "fun" f*cks are just SO much better. I like those women a lot more.
Yeah and that's why your female friend who doesn't do any of that gets the guys right out from under your nose. You're just not getting it iqqi, women are already too indirect naturally and men tend to be too direct (because they're erroneously told by society to do all the pursuing). The last thing most females need is to use more indirect games and especially game that's for guys.iqqi said:Basic Rules of Attraction 101
1. Keep them guessing/ keep them on their toes
- hot/cold
- actively disinterested
-c+f
2. Don't be clingy
- spin plates/ date multiple people
- don't call too much/ wait to call
- give them a chance to miss you
3. Don't be afraid to approach
- eye contact
- kino
- rapport
- say hi
ect ect., it goes both ways, boys!!! Long before there was EVER sosuave, there was the Rules, and Cosmo, and Grandma!
It CRACKS ME UP that you all think Game is for boys. Girls have had it mastered for decades!!!
Game is just another word for common sense and ability to attract/maintain interest in romance.
We really ARE a lot more like you guys than NOT!!!
Believe what you want.ketostix said:Yeah and that's why your female friend who doesn't do any of that gets the guys right out from under your nose. You're just not getting it iqqi, women are already too indirect naturally and men tend to be too direct (because they're erroneously told by society to do all the pursuing). The last thing most females need is to use more indirect games and especially game that's for guys.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.