Play the Game
Master Don Juan
Not for fun, but just to see what the competition is doing?
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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Yup. Have you, mushroom, or anyone else for that matter had a conversation with a girl who reads cosmo alot?MushroomGod said:Not surprised a women's magazine would encourage **** tests
so very truealiasguy said:What gets me about Cosmo is how there are all these articles about sex --- how to drive him wild in bed --- 10 sex secrets he wishes you knew --- how to spice it up.
Yet, a lot of women are cold fish in bed. Do they even READ the "TIPS"? I'll bet about HALF don't ever apply them. Even when I rip them up, and make them do things they've never done (which is SO common that it AMAZES me -- how could they have never DONE x, y, or z before?) many are bereft of initiative. Too many just lie there. I like the ones who are enthusiastic.
This one chick recently (who's old enough to have already learned a thing or two) who was reasonably enthusiastic in bed, said, "Wow, I just realized that before, I'd been having BORING sex all my life." So, even though I was sorta flattered, I'm thinking: "B*itch, why don't YOU get crazy? Why is it all those other guys' fault? I'm not THAT much different than them. You oughta bring something to the table." But I didn't say it.
This post is pretty tangential, but the Cosmo question just got me thinking about this. The "fun" f*cks are just SO much better. I like those women a lot more.
Yeah and that's why your female friend who doesn't do any of that gets the guys right out from under your nose. You're just not getting it iqqi, women are already too indirect naturally and men tend to be too direct (because they're erroneously told by society to do all the pursuing). The last thing most females need is to use more indirect games and especially game that's for guys.iqqi said:Basic Rules of Attraction 101
1. Keep them guessing/ keep them on their toes
- hot/cold
- actively disinterested
-c+f
2. Don't be clingy
- spin plates/ date multiple people
- don't call too much/ wait to call
- give them a chance to miss you
3. Don't be afraid to approach
- eye contact
- kino
- rapport
- say hi
ect ect., it goes both ways, boys!!! Long before there was EVER sosuave, there was the Rules, and Cosmo, and Grandma!
It CRACKS ME UP that you all think Game is for boys. Girls have had it mastered for decades!!!
Game is just another word for common sense and ability to attract/maintain interest in romance.
We really ARE a lot more like you guys than NOT!!!
Believe what you want.ketostix said:Yeah and that's why your female friend who doesn't do any of that gets the guys right out from under your nose. You're just not getting it iqqi, women are already too indirect naturally and men tend to be too direct (because they're erroneously told by society to do all the pursuing). The last thing most females need is to use more indirect games and especially game that's for guys.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.