Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
But experience does not seem to translate into confidence which is really needed to attract women. In fact, you realize what you are missing, and will just have something less to blame your lack of success of women on.Warrior74 said:
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
it depends really. Personally I believe that confidence comes from experience.Luke Skywalker said:
Exactly. So, if you have deep inner game issues, what I believe that I have myself, then it's not likely going to be helpful at all.muhuwahaha said:
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
amen to dat! i lost mine about a year and a half after i joined this site, i was 23 then. i can't say i didn't get laid before cuz my game was weak or anything, but cuz i would never get the oppotunity to. i read somewhere here that sex = perception + oppotunity, and that was very true in my case, i'd get the chick so sexually into me to the point she'd actually arrange the hookups, but would turn them down cuz i was busy.slaog said:
Look, I hate to break it to you, and some of the other delusional people on this site, but there isn't really a such thing as a 'natural' when it comes to bagging chicks. You have people that work on their craft, and people that don't. Sure, some people are naturally more social than others, but you don't have to be social to get femals.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.