"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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How many of you DJs use emoticons and smiley faces in texts?

Knight of Roses

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Just curious.

What's your thoughts on the following:

Smiley faces
Winks
Devil emoji
Smiley face / winking emoticons
Using terms like "Haha, and LoL".
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Visionist

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I tend to use the sunglasses emoticon. I used to use the tongue sticking out emoticon too, not so much now.

Less is definitely more.
 

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I use them somewhat. Especially when you say anything that could be intepreted in a bad way to let them know it is meant as teasing.

Texting can be a little dangerous if you don't know how to do it properly because if someone inteprets something the wrong way via text it is a far bigger issue than it would normally be over the phone or in person and will be a lot harder to overcome. It is a very unforgiving form of communication.
 

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I usually just use one at the end if appropriate as a brief way of expressing the "tone" of my message or what facial expression I would make.

This :p one I limit mostly to irony, it's commonly overused by insecure people. Used sparingly it can can clarify that a message isn't intended to be negative, when it could very easily be interpreted like that without the emoji.

Using just a ton of emojis can be appropriate if you have developed that type of rapport or it's a sort of inside joke or something. Don't do it by default though.

I use "haha" a lot more than I use "lol". The length of the "hahahaha" says something about just how funny I found it to be. "Lol" is outdated and people who say it typically don't laugh in reality, it feels like the laziest way to express something to be slightly amusing, not really funny.
 

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I use the Pointing Finger emoji followed by the "OK" hand sign emoji
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Hal9000

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I use them however much the girl I'm texting uses them. If she never uses one I won't be the first one to use an emoji but if she's including them in every message I will use them much more freely. I don't use them at all in most non dating communication but that's not particularly relevant when you're trying to get a date or whatever.
 

Black Widow Void

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Rarely and no more than using an exclamation point.
The only time I used some sort of emoticon is when I'm not sure if my humor properly received (I can be sardonic and dry at times).
 

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I sometimes use the cool or just a smiley face. I try to keep it at a min. though. The problem with text is that one cannot get emotion through on a text, so sometimes one needs to add an emoji to lighten the text so it's not taken out of context.
 

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Only with my daughters. We have this thing were we send emoji strings back and forth with no words to see if we can figure out what what the other is saying. It's sort of fun. But I've never done anything like this with women I date. I'm not a big texter... I sort of hate it. Other than my daughters, I don't think I've ever sent a text to anyone longer than a sentence. Anything more than that I just call.
 

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I use them however much the girl I'm texting uses them. If she never uses one I won't be the first one to use an emoji but if she's including them in every message I will use them much more freely. I don't use them at all in most non dating communication but that's not particularly relevant when you're trying to get a date or whatever.
This.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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I don't use them with women. I've used the poop emoji with male friends.
 

Lookatu

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Generally I find emoji's more used and accepted from young gals. The older gals that aren't very career oriented or have good jobs will also be accepting and generally use them a lot. The older career minded women though may be turned off by them or by the over usage of them.
 

DreamAgain

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They are very useful, but only in moderation and only in the absolute right context. A properly timed winky face is quite potent ;)
 

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I mostly use it to flex after I get a throater or beat it rotten
 
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