"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
How many of you are capable of taking rejection?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
BornWinner
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I hate what others will think of me if I am rejected. I dont want to look like a chump in front of everyone.
Surprisingly, I dont get all pissed off when I am rejected for a job. I applied 30-40 applicatons and I got about 6-7 interviews. And even if I managed to get to the interview phase, I am not able to get hired. And I don't get pissed off.......
The only time I got pissed off is when I tried to do pickup. Being such a wuss and acting like a chump, I humiliated myself a few times. DARN IT!!!!!!!!
Cloud-uk
Master Don Juan
Dating is a numbers game, so a lot of the time it just wont come together, big deal! Confidence is knowing that if a girl was in the right situation/ state of mind she would go for you, but accepting you don't control the world.
Well...yet
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Amen. Statistically you're more likely to be rejected.. so go out and have fun with it! There's nothing like swapping war stories with your palsOriginally posted by Cloud-uk
Being rejected is just one of those things you have to laugh off. When you weigh it all up, a tiny proportion of women are actually girlfriend/date material. Just because you got the wrong one doesn't make you any less of a man. We are Don Juans, a girl rejecting us is not us messing up, and its not them messing up, its just...putting your hand in a lucky dip box and coming out with the joke prize.
Dating is a numbers game, so a lot of the time it just wont come together, big deal! Confidence is knowing that if a girl was in the right situation/ state of mind she would go for you, but accepting you don't control the world.
Well...yet
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
I told her: Okey, and smiled
And then i asked myself.. "wooow come on now, i should feel much worst that i do" whats wrong! Nothings wrong, everything is just as it should be. I just don't give a **** about it man, i love life to much to be wasting it on this girl.
THA REALNESS
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On the 17 of December, I met a strawberry blond. She approached me, introduced herself and we talked for about 30 minutes. I got her number and excused myself to get some more beer.
I called her three times over the past two weeks, no answer, no answering machine.
I saw her again last night and tried to make a plan for this next Wednesday. She told me that she felt a cold coming on and didn't think she'd be up to it. Well, that's better than flaking on me Wednesday night. So, I get up and talk to a prettier girl and lay the mack down. No worries.
Moral:
It's easy to mistake friendliness for interest, especially when you've had a few vodka's with grapefruit.
If it's a straight out rejection, I'm even a bit impressed.
However, if I don't get a single phone number, when I'm out a night, I'm feeling a bit down and some kind of anger, because I've been working really hard to overcome my shyness and the women just have to stand there and wait. (I want my reward for working hard, you know?)
What I REALLY REALLY hate is sh*t like not answering the phone when I call.
Then I can never be sure, if she doesn't want to date me anymore or if she just didn't take her cell with her/ wasn't at home.