"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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How many guys could forgive if?

mikey2012

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Wife or gf.

1. Has affair with some dude for 6 months .
2. She says she doesn't love you
3. She tells you she loves some other dude
4. Doesn't have sex with you for 6 months.

All of the above happens to you.

Even if you are married would you take her back??? Are there any circumstances would you take her back ? Or is it done deal?

Maybe some guys would argue if I loved her so much I would take her back. Is this a valid reason? Would you give her one more chance and work things out?
 
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I would never forgive an affair. I have too much self respect. If I took someone back after cheating it says "it's ok to walk all over me and put my health at risk." I would not get revenge, I would just cut myself off and leave.
If someone said they wanted to be with someone else...and they were in love? But they had not actually cheated? Talk about couples therapy. There are loads of attractive people in this world but when you say, "I do", you made a commitment. Gotta learn to get over the passing fancy of some pretty young thing. I would be hurt and pissed but I would be willing to try to work through it.

If I didn't get sex (and I am assuming no other affection...no kisses or hugs) and there isn't a serious injury or medication side effect causing it, same thing. Couples counseling. When you make that commitment, you need to make every effort to work through it. Communicate and be honest.
 

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No chance.

If a man or women takes someone back after such an appalling behaviour then they deserve everything they get as far as I'm concerned.
 

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1. No
2. No
3. No
4. If there was a good reason (medical or something like that).
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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mikey2012 said:
Wife or gf.

1. Has affair with some dude for 6 months .
2. She says she doesn't love you
3. She tells you she loves some other dude
4. Doesn't have sex with you for 6 months.

Even if you are married would you take her back??? Are there any circumstances would you take her back ? Or is it done deal?

Maybe some guys would argue if I loved her so much I would take her back. Is this a valid reason? Would you give her one more chance and work things out?
Buddy...Im saying this on behalf of the So Suave community... as nismo-4 would say "your princess is in another castle" She has compleltly disprespected you... in this case...even if you love her...she doesnt really love you...Actions speak louder then words....please never speak to this person ever again...

Keep spinning Boyz,
J0504S
 

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Only a beta who loves abuse and has no self-confidence at all would take back such a skank.

There are over 3.5 billion women in the world. Why let ONE woman sh!t all over you? Taking her back is the same as approving of her behavior. You are telling her indirectly that this behavior is acceptable and will be tolerated in the future.

How can any woman respect such a man? She will only up the ante and behave WORSE the next time.

Remember --> Once a woman's behavior slips.. it only gets worse NOT better. She will do what she can get away with.

Men need to understand that some relationships have a shorter shelf life than others. Men are too loyal for their own good and women take full advantage of this.
 

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There's nothing on this great earth that should make any person take back someone after doing any of those things. If you do, then you're a lost soul.

It's over buddy.
 

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mikey2012 said:
Wife or gf.

1. Has affair with some dude for 6 months .
2. She says she doesn't love you
3. She tells you she loves some other dude
4. Doesn't have sex with you for 6 months.

Even if you are married would you take her back??? Are there any circumstances would you take her back ? Or is it done deal?

Maybe some guys would argue if I loved her so much I would take her back. Is this a valid reason? Would you give her one more chance and work things out?
Who cares about 2 and 3, its all words. If she loves him and sleeps with you that's all that matters.

Girls don't care about love and honesty and all that crap. You think she would stay with you and love you and take care of you if you got in a car accident and were in a wheelchair for the next 20 years? Girls care about right now, they want everything in the present. They can't see or think more than 2 steps in front of them. That's why they are so good at knocking down a guys ego.

Unless she is a solid religious girl who is deeply deeply rooted in family values, all girls want to be a housewife of Beverly Hills.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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those are 3 absolutely ridiculously obvious deal breakers

the 4th one isn't if she has a good reason(which in this case she doesn't)

even a modicum of self-respect would let you not tolerate more than ONE of these let alone all 4
 

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mikey2012 said:
No joke. This guy accepted her back after all that
''This guy'' is a wimp. He probably imagines that it's the only piece of a$$ he can get...

You are better of not getting laid than accepting this, (although ''this guy'' is already not getting laid even with his significant other with him)
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Cremasta said:
1. No
2. No
3. No
4. If there was a good reason (medical or something like that).
Same answers I'd give.
 
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