"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How many go clubbing solo?

Groverz

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I tend to do it a lot, sometimes I have luck sometimes I don't. I would rather go with a friend but my options are limited. What do you girls think about guys who go out solo?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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iovannis

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Usually it's a sign of lack of friends or have low social status. But nothing is definite heck if I'd be in new city i'd probably go solo too. The question ultimately comes down to are you comfortable going solo? If so who cares so long you have a catch.
 

fastlife

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If I'm going somewhere with friends it's to spend time with them. But for me, if I want to meet girls going solo is 100% the way to go. It's only 'weird' if you feel like it's weird--but wingmen, friends, etc., are a crutch. In fact, I'd say the single highest indicator of social status is the abilitiy walk into a new environment without having to rely on the security of a preexisting social circle.

When you're by yourself you can set the tone of all your interactions. You can move when you want to move. It's easier to isolate girls. Logistics are easier. And if a girl is in a group you're more likely to be invited along to the next venue or for post-club food, etc. There are fewer potential witnesses if a girl is afraid of being judged. Plus it's just fun to know that if you have no (particularly good) options on a Saturday night you can generate new options on your own.
 
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