"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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...did it take for you to get fed up and turn from an orbiter to a noob DJ?

For me, it was around 6 or 7 girls ending around 1998, before I cracked mentally.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Just one for me... the woman that landed me here, and who would be nothing more than a plate now...

The negative emotions I encountered helped me realize my deepest beliefs of value are my reality
 
RangerMIke

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For me I think I've always been like this having been raised by what you might call a natural DJ, my grandfather.

Minus a serious lapse in judgement when I got married for 10 years starting in my early 30s... ending in my early 40s. I didn't find this website until I guess 5 years ago when I was helping my nephew with his chick problems when he started at Tulane. I've always been good with women and he asked me for help.. I started giving him advice and he said something like "You sound like advice people give on a website I've seen." And gave me this URL. It's been an amazing experience for me. I always knew what I did worked, but I had no idea WHY what I did worked.

For years people would ask me, "What do you do... How do you do it. You treat women like cr@p and they keep coming back for more?" I honestly did not know... really I didn't. The only advice I could give was to just be yourself and not give a fvck. Which is really bad advice, because if being yourself means you are a pathetic simp... well that's not going to help you, and it really is easy to not give a fvck when all you've ever had is success.

I've always been a VERY driven person, where being successful was almost an obsession... never really happy with just good enough no mater what I cared about almost to the point of selfishness. I had no real idea that THIS is what women find attractive. Sosuave really has helped me understand female nature particularly the DJ Bible, Rational Male and Book of Pook.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I would never consider myself an orbiter, I was just never that kind of guy. But to go from what I see as broken parts waiting to be assembled, it probably took 30 girls to get to the point where I didn't have to actively think about. Roughly a further 20 to get good. Now I'm at the point where I'm in control of my sex life, which is what I always wanted from this.
 
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wifehunter said:
...did it take for you to get fed up and turn from an orbiter to a noob DJ?

For me, it was around 6 or 7 girls ending around 1998, before I cracked mentally.
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It took my most recent ex gf 2 years ago who was also bpd with daddy issues to bring me here. I let her in to my life and she slaughtered it and burned the remains. Vowed I’d never let it happen again, and ever since I found this place I have been able to pinpoint all the stupid blue pill things I had done to get myself slaughtered and have actively worked to reverse it.

Still not fully there but slowly making the changes.
 
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It took me 2 girls that I actually went out with who played all sorts of games, and many I talked to in about a 2-3month period. After that it was game on and there was no turning back. I soaked up all the DJ knowledge i could and went to work. There is no woman that will fool me these days. I've had every type there is. I feel like a 25yo chic at times with the power/skills/attractiveness I have as an experienced single guy. I make sure I get the upperhand. If I'm not in that position, and they give me too much drama, I find their replacement. The past several months I've managed to keep 3-4 on deck at all times.
 
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Howiestern said:
It took me 2 girls that I actually went out with who played all sorts of games, and many I talked to in about a 2-3month period. After that it was game on and there was no turning back. I soaked up all the DJ knowledge i could and went to work. There is no woman that will fool me these days. I've had every type there is. I feel like a 25yo chic at times with the power/skills/attractiveness I have as an experienced single guy. I make sure I get the upperhand. If I'm not in that position, and they give me too much drama, I find their replacement. The past several months I've managed to keep 3-4 on deck at all times.
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Okay Neo.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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