"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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wifehunter

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...did it take for you to get fed up and turn from an orbiter to a noob DJ?

For me, it was around 6 or 7 girls ending around 1998, before I cracked mentally.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Roober

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Just one for me... the woman that landed me here, and who would be nothing more than a plate now...

The negative emotions I encountered helped me realize my deepest beliefs of value are my reality
 

RangerMIke

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For me I think I've always been like this having been raised by what you might call a natural DJ, my grandfather.

Minus a serious lapse in judgement when I got married for 10 years starting in my early 30s... ending in my early 40s. I didn't find this website until I guess 5 years ago when I was helping my nephew with his chick problems when he started at Tulane. I've always been good with women and he asked me for help.. I started giving him advice and he said something like "You sound like advice people give on a website I've seen." And gave me this URL. It's been an amazing experience for me. I always knew what I did worked, but I had no idea WHY what I did worked.

For years people would ask me, "What do you do... How do you do it. You treat women like cr@p and they keep coming back for more?" I honestly did not know... really I didn't. The only advice I could give was to just be yourself and not give a fvck. Which is really bad advice, because if being yourself means you are a pathetic simp... well that's not going to help you, and it really is easy to not give a fvck when all you've ever had is success.

I've always been a VERY driven person, where being successful was almost an obsession... never really happy with just good enough no mater what I cared about almost to the point of selfishness. I had no real idea that THIS is what women find attractive. Sosuave really has helped me understand female nature particularly the DJ Bible, Rational Male and Book of Pook.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Mr Wright

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I would never consider myself an orbiter, I was just never that kind of guy. But to go from what I see as broken parts waiting to be assembled, it probably took 30 girls to get to the point where I didn't have to actively think about. Roughly a further 20 to get good. Now I'm at the point where I'm in control of my sex life, which is what I always wanted from this.
 

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...did it take for you to get fed up and turn from an orbiter to a noob DJ?

For me, it was around 6 or 7 girls ending around 1998, before I cracked mentally.

It took my most recent ex gf 2 years ago who was also bpd with daddy issues to bring me here. I let her in to my life and she slaughtered it and burned the remains. Vowed I’d never let it happen again, and ever since I found this place I have been able to pinpoint all the stupid blue pill things I had done to get myself slaughtered and have actively worked to reverse it.

Still not fully there but slowly making the changes.
 

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It took me 2 girls that I actually went out with who played all sorts of games, and many I talked to in about a 2-3month period. After that it was game on and there was no turning back. I soaked up all the DJ knowledge i could and went to work. There is no woman that will fool me these days. I've had every type there is. I feel like a 25yo chic at times with the power/skills/attractiveness I have as an experienced single guy. I make sure I get the upperhand. If I'm not in that position, and they give me too much drama, I find their replacement. The past several months I've managed to keep 3-4 on deck at all times.
 

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It took me 2 girls that I actually went out with who played all sorts of games, and many I talked to in about a 2-3month period. After that it was game on and there was no turning back. I soaked up all the DJ knowledge i could and went to work. There is no woman that will fool me these days. I've had every type there is. I feel like a 25yo chic at times with the power/skills/attractiveness I have as an experienced single guy. I make sure I get the upperhand. If I'm not in that position, and they give me too much drama, I find their replacement. The past several months I've managed to keep 3-4 on deck at all times.
Okay Neo.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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