"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
How many friends do you have? How many girlfriends have you had?
- Thread starter tactic
- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
spider_007
Master Don Juan
flyinshark
Senior Don Juan
It's been not even 5 months since the year has started, so if anyone had, say, 10+ girlfriends during this time -- which is the minimum option in your poll -- that would mean that they had a new gf each 2 weeks, AT LEAST. Do u see the problem ?
Let's not confuse girlfriends with dates, or with girls we might have slept with...
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
earthshyne
Senior Don Juan
I disagree, though I think the question could have been worded more effectively. After all, how many aren't curious how they measure up in the partner count?
Muppet
Don Juan
IE: I get bored a ton, I have way to much damn free time.
Soo anyone in the Rochester area that is bored look me up!
diablo
Master Don Juan
I have never had a girlfriend. And every relationship I've seen so far make me very content with that. Yay for meaningless sex!
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
familyguyfan
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Because he pointed out how your thread was poorly worded and poorly set up?
familyguyfan
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That's what everyone thinks...read the responses.