"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
How many friends do you have? How many girlfriends have you had?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
spider_007
Master Don Juan
flyinshark
Senior Don Juan
It's been not even 5 months since the year has started, so if anyone had, say, 10+ girlfriends during this time -- which is the minimum option in your poll -- that would mean that they had a new gf each 2 weeks, AT LEAST. Do u see the problem ?
Let's not confuse girlfriends with dates, or with girls we might have slept with...
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
earthshyne
Senior Don Juan
I disagree, though I think the question could have been worded more effectively. After all, how many aren't curious how they measure up in the partner count?
Muppet
Don Juan
IE: I get bored a ton, I have way to much damn free time.
Soo anyone in the Rochester area that is bored look me up!
diablo
Master Don Juan
I have never had a girlfriend. And every relationship I've seen so far make me very content with that. Yay for meaningless sex!
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
familyguyfan
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Because he pointed out how your thread was poorly worded and poorly set up?
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That's what everyone thinks...read the responses.