How many dates without action before you eject?

[Trump]

You guys have been friends for two years?! Most women would jump at the chance to "finally" bang him out if she was sexually interested.

I think you mean most ‘men’ would jump at the chance to finally bang ‘her’ if he was sexually interested.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Been dating a girl I work with (did topic about her before). Known her 2 years, had some drama and up and down moments. I've been on 6 dates now, even on the first date she was being a pain in the ass and at the end of the night said 'I don't kiss on first dates'. After 6 dates the most we've done is kiss. I have a good time with her but she's very insecure and has been treated **** before.

Depends on your objective. I only kiss on the first date if I want to get laid as quickly as possible. If she has other important qualities, I'm not in a rush to get "action." Interest level will take care of the physical when she is ready.

 

[newtothis92]

If this girl is super conservative and progresses very slowly in a relationship because she is "cautious", then she better be that guarded with the rest of her life. There needs to be congruency. Her current words need to match her previous actions.

The litmus test she needs to pass is:
-No faKebook/instagram attention whoring.
-Been this way with previous guys.
-Has no orbiters.
-Shuns male attention.
-Doesn't flirt with guys.
-Lacks charm.
-Been with very few guys.

If she can pass these 7 things then maybe keep her around, but definitely pull away some.

BTW, I've never known a girl like this. I really don't think they exist. The more "rational" ones take longer to warm up, but they are still women at the end of the day that act on emotion. And the more rational ones act like men anyways.

Well she had a fk buddy from work before who used her
Has loads of orbiters (male friends), had a fk buddy while I was talking to her last year.

I've asked her to come to my place. If she says no, she's nexted. If she comes, we're ****ing.

 

[The Duke]

Well she had a fk buddy from work before who used her
Has loads of orbiters (male friends), had a fk buddy while I was talking to her last year.

well there you go, that girl is full of total bullschitt. Another fine example of why a man should be very cautious with what a woman tells you. They are NEVER as innocent as they claim. <--Take that to the bank fella's.

 

[newtothis92]

Some more meat for the bones. She agreed to come over mine this week, but wants to speak to me first (oooh). Told me she went to gym with steroid user the other day (probably ****ed).

 

[Billtx49]

but wants to speak to me first

Told me she went to gym with steroid user the other day

Be ready for the probable you’ve been replaced talk then.…
Women don’t usually make an admission about another man unless they are caught, done with you, or very close to it.

 

[marmel75]

Some more meat for the bones. She agreed to come over mine this week, but wants to speak to me first (oooh). Told me she went to gym with steroid user the other day (probably ****ed).

Lmao...here comes the LJBF talk ahead of time so you dont get your hopes up.

 

[newtothis92]

lol it's a classic, isn't it.

be ill for 1 week and you're out. We was meant to go out Tuesday (day she went gym with this new random guy).

I asked her if she hooked up with him, she said no 'i'm not that type of girl, i just went to the gym, i'm trying to look after myself and get fit'. Then messaged me later saying ' you don't think i'm one of those girls do you? i'm not playing a game'.

Why the **** would she randomly go to the gym with some roider guy now?

 

[Billtx49]

Why the **** would she randomly go to the gym with some roider guy now?

Because she’s still shopping for other men while she’s seeing you…
Btw - it’s not a random event.

 

[newtothis92]

Fair enough, i'll just do same . Do you think I should bother seeing her or cut ties? It feels disrespectful to me

 

[newtothis92]

Now I see what it was the whole time. She liked the company and was looking to upgrade. **** her

 

[Billtx49]

Now I see what it was the whole time. She liked the company and was looking to upgrade. **** her

Yes, you were a nonsexual placeholder for her. She got your attention without having to put out…

 

[newtothis92]

Yes, you were a nonsexual placeholder for her.

should I bother letting her come over this week still?

never gonna engage convo with her again, will just say hi in work and go on my jolly way. but if she asks me about coming over?

 

[Billtx49]

should I bother letting her come over this week still?

never gonna engage convo with her again, will just say hi in work and go on my jolly way. but if she asks me about coming over?

See what her talk is about. If it’s a dump. Agree and mention you’ve had your eye on another girl anyway. If it’s Ljbf, clarify for her it’s not going to be leisure time friends.
If she does come to your place and still doesn’t go all the way, you know what you have to do.

 

[newtothis92]

Will keep you updated and let you know tomorrow.

This girl is not worth it though. I might preemtively end it myself

 

[newtothis92]

so told her i'm gonna start dating other people and she should do the same . her 'that doesn't work for me'. 'i wont agree to it, i wont see you if you're dating other people'.

ha! meanwhile she goes out with guy friends every fcking week developing emotional bonds, wondering how she feels about them and wants me to act exclusive?

 

[Von]

You need to stop talking and texting her until your date

You clearly projecting your insecurities and onetis on her. That's the best way for her to seek other d

Just let it go, get new girls, if she show up to your door than go for the lay (give her time to enter). If she aint showing up or doing anything with you, give her the it was nice to meet you

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Been dating a girl I work with (did topic about her before). Known her 2 years, had some drama and up and down moments. I've been on 6 dates now, even on the first date she was being a pain in the ass and at the end of the night said 'I don't kiss on first dates'. After 6 dates the most we've done is kiss. I have a good time with her but she's very insecure and has been treated **** before.

Next set. Spin plates. Low sex drive is a red flag.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

so told her i'm gonna start dating other people and she should do the same . her 'that doesn't work for me'. 'i wont agree to it, i wont see you if you're dating other people'.

ha! meanwhile she goes out with guy friends every fcking week developing emotional bonds, wondering how she feels about them and wants me to act exclusive?

Female logic.

You don't rationalize. You don't logic.

You March to the beat of your own drum. You take out the D you smash or you next.

If she's not in the mood, some other girl is.

Go get baes

 

[newtothis92]

lmao she messaged me all bent out of shape about what I told her earlier about seeing other people saying. ' WTF you're the only guy I like/care about I keep telling people how lucky I am to have you, i'm not interested in anyone else but you. Those guys are fat and unattractive (guy she went to gym with'.

Then she tried getting out of coming over my place (obvious ****ing) to 'talk about feelings' as I've thrown her off now by making her feel unwanted as I 'randomly' sprung that on her. TOld her I'm not her male girlfriend, i'm a grown as man and she should come over my place. Me - I like you, you like me, come over my place and lets get close. You - lets meet to talk about our feelings, wtf?

I'm not going to fold, I wont meet her out anywhere anymore, If she wants to see me outside of work, it'll be at my place.