DoubleBarrel
Banned
But yeah, maybe both of us should shut-up so we don't get banned.
Someone asked what my Offering was, and I told them.
Someone asked what my Offering was, and I told them.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Guys who seek to tear down their fellow man and their aims and purpose do so also unto themselves. They sabotage their own success through their admissions and expressions Jealousy, Envy and Intolerance.You offer nothing but Sheol, as you were.
We must all conquer them to find Liberty, Love and Prosperity in Life!Guys who seek to tear down their fellow man and their aims and purpose do so also unto themselves. They sabotage their own success through their admissions and expressions of Jealousy, Envy and Intolerance.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Not part of the thread but I'd be very careful about revelations from "God". Whatever it was, a vision or dream or inspiration, be careful about this. Saints warn about "divine visions" a lot and even if they may be from God it is better not to trust them and instead to continue to strive in virtue and divine union. God does not reiterate a religion that is already perfect and completely revealed 2000 years ago. The Church is the only institution that lasts that long, and despite many spiritual and physical wars, it still stands, unconquered. Nothing in recorded history comes even close to it.There's a difference between a Cult and a Religion. With a Cult, members are boxed in so that they can't leave without repercussions and penalties, and they're also often only allowed to associate with fellow members and no one else. But with a Religion, members are free to come and go as they please. If they want to leave, there is no impediment to them doing so. And they are also allowed to associate with whomever they please.
Mine falls under the latter; refuting your accusation.
What if what I'm teaching was exactly the same Doctrine and Precepts that Jesus was teaching His Disciples, but was never, ever really fully explained in the Bible?Not part of the thread but I'd be very careful about revelations from "God". Whatever it was, a vision or dream or inspiration, be careful about this. Saints warn about "divine visions" a lot and even if they may be from God it is better not to trust them and instead to continue to strive in virtue and divine union. God does not reiterate a religion that is already perfect and completely revealed 2000 years ago. The Church is the only institution that lasts that long, and despite many spiritual and physical wars, it still stands, unconquered. Nothing in recorded history comes even close to it.
They save those responses for me. Currently 3 and a half years celibate, on top of a further 7 back between ages 21 and 28.Wow, I was really not expecting this; a response of the opposite nature than I predicted. I half expected people to call me a loser and a failure for taking my approach. But I'll accept the compliment.![]()
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
As an aside, how the hell could you get into the 100+ range without contracting some STD, treatable or permanent?? I would think probability would catch up at that point, even with condoms.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Nearly lost my virginity at 16 to my then girlfriend, parents rolled in to the house and we quickly got dressed. We broke up not long after that.Quality chicks, fat girls, all females included.
Question... If you're intentionally celibate and choosing void of women in order to dedicate your life to a greater good.Just two. And I wish it were one.
The first time, I was drunk and she persisted, and I was curious what sex was like, so I did it. Then I never slept with her again.
The second time was my second girlfriend. We had a year-long whirlwind romance.
The first time was a mistake. The second time was pretty rad.
But here's my thing:
I don't believe in having sex with women I don't have genuine love and affection for. I never have, and I've never made exceptions, except that first time. I've turned women down too. I just walk out when they're expecting to get some. And it pisses them off. But I am a man of principle.
The problem with spending time pursuing women and sex for personal and physical gratification alone is not a wise investment of time. The man who wants to leave his mark on History knows better (but this is probably not for most); he only indulges his passions within the narrow confines of that which will serve him, and those he then serves, best.
I have been celibate for over a decade now. I choose this. It has empowered me to invest my time in detecting things in Life and Nature and write a book about my discoveries and conclusions that will impact and benefit many. I could not have done this were I foundling my time in chasing the next tail.
Those of us who want to make our Contribution to Humanity, we channel our sexual urges into our Offering which we build our Life's Mission around.
I love people, and I love to hear their stories and what their lives are all about and what they're going through. I also love to observe how people interact with each other. This is a great place for all that. So that's why you rarely see me actually posting here, but I spend a fair amount of time just listening in and seeking to better understand men and their problems.Question... If you're intentionally celibate and choosing void of women in order to dedicate your life to a greater good.
Why do you devote so much time on a pick up forum?
Just curious... Thank you for taking the time to reply.I love people, and I love to hear their stories and what their lives are all about and what they're going through. I also love to observe how people interact with each other. This is a great place for all that. So that's why you rarely see me actually posting here, but I spend a fair amount of time just listening in and seeking to better understand men and their problems.
But I do plan to return to dating women with the aim of finding a loyal life mate at some time in the future.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.