Kevin Matthew
Don Juan
The title says it all. Just went on my first date since being dumped. Just wanted to know some opinions on how long I should wait before reaching out to her.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
How long should one wait to call/text after a first date?
- Thread starter Kevin Matthew
- Start date
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
VladPatton
Master Don Juan
Give it a few days. Don't seem eager. Be patient, let her think about you. When you finally do text her, gauge her interest VERY carefully, then go from there.
bluenorther
Senior Don Juan
Did you say anything to HER about when to call?
Why not?
Why not?
One of many PUA myths...
If she's into you, you can (and probably should) call the next day. She will not think it needy or too eager. If she's not into you call the next day, things will be more apparent in regards to how she feels about you.
If she's into you, you can (and probably should) call the next day. She will not think it needy or too eager. If she's not into you call the next day, things will be more apparent in regards to how she feels about you.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.