Kevin Matthew
Don Juan
The title says it all. Just went on my first date since being dumped. Just wanted to know some opinions on how long I should wait before reaching out to her.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
How long should one wait to call/text after a first date?
- Thread starter Kevin Matthew
- Start date
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
VladPatton
Master Don Juan
Give it a few days. Don't seem eager. Be patient, let her think about you. When you finally do text her, gauge her interest VERY carefully, then go from there.
bluenorther
Senior Don Juan
Did you say anything to HER about when to call?
Why not?
Why not?
One of many PUA myths...
If she's into you, you can (and probably should) call the next day. She will not think it needy or too eager. If she's not into you call the next day, things will be more apparent in regards to how she feels about you.
If she's into you, you can (and probably should) call the next day. She will not think it needy or too eager. If she's not into you call the next day, things will be more apparent in regards to how she feels about you.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.