Kevin Matthew
Don Juan
The title says it all. Just went on my first date since being dumped. Just wanted to know some opinions on how long I should wait before reaching out to her.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
How long should one wait to call/text after a first date?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
VladPatton
Master Don Juan
Give it a few days. Don't seem eager. Be patient, let her think about you. When you finally do text her, gauge her interest VERY carefully, then go from there.
bluenorther
Senior Don Juan
Did you say anything to HER about when to call?
Why not?
Why not?
One of many PUA myths...
If she's into you, you can (and probably should) call the next day. She will not think it needy or too eager. If she's not into you call the next day, things will be more apparent in regards to how she feels about you.
If she's into you, you can (and probably should) call the next day. She will not think it needy or too eager. If she's not into you call the next day, things will be more apparent in regards to how she feels about you.
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