Kevin Matthew
Don Juan
The title says it all. Just went on my first date since being dumped. Just wanted to know some opinions on how long I should wait before reaching out to her.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
How long should one wait to call/text after a first date?
- Thread starter Kevin Matthew
- Start date
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
VladPatton
Master Don Juan
Give it a few days. Don't seem eager. Be patient, let her think about you. When you finally do text her, gauge her interest VERY carefully, then go from there.
bluenorther
Senior Don Juan
Did you say anything to HER about when to call?
Why not?
Why not?
One of many PUA myths...
If she's into you, you can (and probably should) call the next day. She will not think it needy or too eager. If she's not into you call the next day, things will be more apparent in regards to how she feels about you.
If she's into you, you can (and probably should) call the next day. She will not think it needy or too eager. If she's not into you call the next day, things will be more apparent in regards to how she feels about you.
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