"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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How long should I wait?

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So I just asked this chick out today. I kind of put her on the spot (because it was infront of our whole class basically) but she said yes. Haha. Like people kept asking if we were going out, someone did the same today. And we were like no. Someone said I should ask her out right now, so I did. She got all embaressed, it was cute. But she said yes. Then the whole class clapped, it was something like out of a ****ing movie. Haha. It was kinda funny. But anyway. I have always flirted with this chick. I have gotten pretty touchy with her even before I asked her out, and we've held hands, blah blah. I have never kissed her yet though, which mainly my reason for writing this. When is the best time to kiss her? I kind of want to wait until the "moment feels right", but that moment may never come, and I'll just end up looking like a *****. But I also don't want to do it right away, because first kisses are suppoused to be memorable (or maybe thats just me?) lol. I don't want it to be lame, like some passing period peck. I don't know. Haha. How should I go about this? With my last gf, I did the later. I kissed her on the second day we went out, and it was akward as ****, but it seemed like once I broke the ice we kissed just about any chance we got to, so I'm sure this will be the same but yeah.. DJs! Advice please?

-No Fat Chicks
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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It will come brotha. I could see it. If you aint giving her no attention and play her to the curve just to get some good acknowlegement from yo homies then it wont. But if you do yo thing and that wait till its right should show up.
 

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Any other advice?

It's been day 2, still haven't kissed her yet. But I barely even got to see her today.. and anytime I did see her we weren't alone. This may be a little harder than I thought. What do you guys think? I can't get her alone! What to do?

-No Fat Chicks
 

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How old are you? 14? You two are together, right?
 

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^ Thanks for that smack of reality. I don't know what I was thinking. Lol, this thread was dumb.

-No Fat Chicks
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I'm confused, I don't see how what oakraider said made a difference. :/ (Not in a bad way, I just don't think I understand what you meant by it or what NFC interpreted it as)
 

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The true DJ answer is.. whenever you ****ing want.

It only took a slap to my face to realize it. And FTW, I kissed her today.

Lol.

-No Fat Chicks
 

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Plec07 said:
I'm confused, I don't see how what oakraider said made a difference. :/ (Not in a bad way, I just don't think I understand what you meant by it or what NFC interpreted it as)
Thats cause i didnt feel like explaing. If they are officially together then i was gonna be rude and ask how the f*ck hasnt he kissed her. I know exactly what he said but it was kinda a stupid thing to post. You have a gf you havent kissed before...so what do you do? Not be a goddamn moron, thats what.
 

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Agreed. If she is your gf, you better kiss that girl!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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