"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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How long should I wait?

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So I just asked this chick out today. I kind of put her on the spot (because it was infront of our whole class basically) but she said yes. Haha. Like people kept asking if we were going out, someone did the same today. And we were like no. Someone said I should ask her out right now, so I did. She got all embaressed, it was cute. But she said yes. Then the whole class clapped, it was something like out of a ****ing movie. Haha. It was kinda funny. But anyway. I have always flirted with this chick. I have gotten pretty touchy with her even before I asked her out, and we've held hands, blah blah. I have never kissed her yet though, which mainly my reason for writing this. When is the best time to kiss her? I kind of want to wait until the "moment feels right", but that moment may never come, and I'll just end up looking like a *****. But I also don't want to do it right away, because first kisses are suppoused to be memorable (or maybe thats just me?) lol. I don't want it to be lame, like some passing period peck. I don't know. Haha. How should I go about this? With my last gf, I did the later. I kissed her on the second day we went out, and it was akward as ****, but it seemed like once I broke the ice we kissed just about any chance we got to, so I'm sure this will be the same but yeah.. DJs! Advice please?

-No Fat Chicks
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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It will come brotha. I could see it. If you aint giving her no attention and play her to the curve just to get some good acknowlegement from yo homies then it wont. But if you do yo thing and that wait till its right should show up.
 

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Any other advice?

It's been day 2, still haven't kissed her yet. But I barely even got to see her today.. and anytime I did see her we weren't alone. This may be a little harder than I thought. What do you guys think? I can't get her alone! What to do?

-No Fat Chicks
 

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How old are you? 14? You two are together, right?
 

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^ Thanks for that smack of reality. I don't know what I was thinking. Lol, this thread was dumb.

-No Fat Chicks
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I'm confused, I don't see how what oakraider said made a difference. :/ (Not in a bad way, I just don't think I understand what you meant by it or what NFC interpreted it as)
 

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The true DJ answer is.. whenever you ****ing want.

It only took a slap to my face to realize it. And FTW, I kissed her today.

Lol.

-No Fat Chicks
 

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Plec07 said:
I'm confused, I don't see how what oakraider said made a difference. :/ (Not in a bad way, I just don't think I understand what you meant by it or what NFC interpreted it as)
Thats cause i didnt feel like explaing. If they are officially together then i was gonna be rude and ask how the f*ck hasnt he kissed her. I know exactly what he said but it was kinda a stupid thing to post. You have a gf you havent kissed before...so what do you do? Not be a goddamn moron, thats what.
 

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Agreed. If she is your gf, you better kiss that girl!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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