How long does it take for a younger woman to adapt to an older guy?

[SpartanWarrior77]

The longer form question is:

What are your takes/experiences when it comes to younger women adapting to an older guy in terms of humor, sophistication, conversational capacity etc?

I'm 30 and I'm looking for a GF/something serious and I am looking abroad and sometimes locally for chicks in the 18-22 range because would like a bit of an age gap, etc.

As I've said in a recent post, I find most younger women have very poor conversational skills even if they're interested in me.

This raises some concern because I'm wondering how it would actually be like to be in a relationship with a woman like this.

Another thing I noticed is that with foreign women, they often don't get my teasing and sense of humor. They take it personally sometimes.

Not to toot my own horn but I'm somewhat sophisticated, well-traveled, multiple languages, well-read, etc. I really want someone who can at least adapt over-time (within reason) and not stay within a somewhat dull and short-sighted state of mind when it comes to the relationship.

Any of you guys have some anecdotes in terms of the time, energy and process involved in seriously dating a younger girl? Have you successfully guided her development to where she is now capable of interacting with you at a more level playing field? How long did it take? Was there a lot of correction and call-outs?

 

[plumber]

case by case. some can match you, some can not, some will exceed you. outside the usa, some of the younger ones already have 10+ years of street business smarts. just lead like always, if she follows its good.

if she is from a different place and you go there, be ready to demonstrate who you are.

if your in good shape, gym and or running, go for it. if your out of shape find someone older.

since you know multiple languages should be simple to talk in ways that are not offensive.

 

[Plinco]

The longer form question is:

What are your takes/experiences when it comes to younger women adapting to an older guy in terms of humor, sophistication, conversational capacity etc?

If she likes you, no time at all. The more she likes you, the more she is going to want to relate to you.

 

[SpartanWarrior77]

case by case. some can match you, some can not, some will exceed you. outside the usa, some of the younger ones already have 10+ years of street business smarts. just lead like always, if she follows its good.

if she is from a different place and you go there, be ready to demonstrate who you are.

if your in good shape, gym and or running, go for it. if your out of shape find someone older.

since you know multiple languages should be simple to talk in ways that are not offensive.

Thanks for the comment:

I speak multiple languages but what I mean is that my humor and style is still American-ish and I don't always understand what they find offensive or not.

I am very much in shape.

I'm specificaly looking for examples where things changed over time.

 

[SpartanWarrior77]

If she likes you, no time at all. The more she likes you, the more she is going to want to relate to you.

Yeah true but with online game, you're looking at some barriers. I think women are less likely to fall in love online bc of how cheap male attention is on there. I think they can't really get you online bc they can't feel you, they can't smell you, they can't hear your voice (the same way). So, I'm trying to find a way to game her without taking things personally when she's being super dry and dull but still interested.

 

[The Duke]

I've had a few girls I've dated that were 15-20 years younger. I met every single one in bars and we hit it off instantly. All but one was shy at first but after a few dates that went away and we had good conversations.

It really depends on the person adapting to your level as far as your version of sophistication/humor/depth. I'd take that case by case.

At some point I'd move these conversations from online to over the phone or some other medium. That will show you where they stand.

 

[Beyond It]

You have the consideration that there is an adaptation phase or some slight barrier. In my mid 40’s I had women ready to drop panties who were in their early 20’s.

There are 18 year olds everywhere who would jump at the chance to sleep with a 30 something man. It’s not your age. It’s your thinking. The more you want her, the more she pulls away. Think about it.

 

[SpartanWarrior77]

I've had a few girls I've dated that were 15-20 years younger. I met every single one in bars and we hit it off instantly. All but one was shy at first but after a few dates that went away and we had good conversations.

It really depends on the person adapting to your level as far as your version of sophistication/humor/depth. I'd take that case by case.

At some point I'd move these conversations from online to over the phone or some other medium. That will show you where they stand.

Yeah, that's a good experiment, transitioning from texting/chatting to either phone or video calls to really get a barometer on the interaction.

 

[SpartanWarrior77]

You have the consideration that there is an adaptation phase or some slight barrier. In my mid 40’s I had women ready to drop panties who were in their early 20’s.

There are 18 year olds everywhere who would jump at the chance to sleep with a 30 something man. It’s not your age. It’s your thinking. The more you want her, the more she pulls away. Think about it.

I appreciate the comment man but you're not blowing my mind with your last sentence there bud. I'm well aware of that dynamic. I'm not being needy and wanting her too much. That's not my issue here. It's that I get turned off when they can't hold a conversation but that I still sense there to be potential within the interaction. I just can't bring myself to be patient.

 

[Vanderdonck]

It depends on the persons involved, but if a woman is open to older guys and there is attraction, she will adapt. It's just that simple.

Some women in their 20s are far more mature than others in their 40s. And vice versa. But my perspective is skewed as for some reason younger women love me.

 

[SpartanWarrior77]

It depends on the persons involved, but if a woman is open to older guys and there is attraction, she will adapt. It's just that simple.

Some women in their 20s are far more mature than others in their 40s. And vice versa. But my perspective is skewed as for some reason younger women love me.

Do u have an example of the process? This isn't really helping lol

 

[Beyond It]

I appreciate the comment man but you're not blowing my mind with your last sentence there bud. I'm well aware of that dynamic. I'm not being needy and wanting her too much. That's not my issue here. It's that I get turned off when they can't hold a conversation but that I still sense there to be potential within the interaction. I just can't bring myself to be patient.

Don’t like the last statement? Deal with it. You’re a big boy.

 

[Vanderdonck]

Do u have an example of the process? This isn't really helping lol

What process? I only have my experiences.

 

[SpartanWarrior77]

What process? I only have my experiences.

I mean, the process that occurred throughout your experience. Specifics basically.

 

[Vanderdonck]

I mean, the process that occurred throughout your experience. Specifics basically.

There is no process. I attract them, we bond, they want to be with me. Same as with any woman except her odometer is lower.

If she's still of a "young" mindset (partying etc) or just immature that will be laid bare for you to see. It's up to you to see how your worlds are meant to coincide. One night, five years, just a lot of timing and mindset variables involved. When a young woman is into an older man (i.e. 10+ years), there's no mistaking it.