Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
How long do your fb's last?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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OvernightPlayer
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I've had quite a few FBs in my lifetime. Obviously, they just fill a temporary need. Most FBs, for me at least, last 2-3 months. But I do have one, that I can call on wherever and whenever, for over a year and a half. Usually, my FB relationships end after I get into a committed relationship or they seek one from me and I decide that I don't want to go into that direction with them.
Really though, FBs are all temporary and they WILL end. When they do, never blame yourself. Eventually, she's going to want something more from you or find someone else from whom she will want something more from. It's at that point that you find out if you can move on or you realize that you've actually been more attached to her than you originally thought you were.
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emotional attachments on the guys side cause nothing but havoc on his mind.C-quenced said:
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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I think she thinks that is putting up a stand...?
I guess for it to last that long she must have had IL she also use to be on call when I had a gf..
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Longest on/off again: 2 years (whenever she was around basically)
Not all of them ended with a spiteful relationship-ultimatum, some just quietly fell off (they realized themselves what the situation was/found a guy that wanted a relationship/wanted to be celibate for a while/etc). I had no problem with them, at least they were honest
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Near the end she mentioned something about cutting me off in a few months as she had her eyes on another dude.
I cut her off at that point. Hot fiery passionate fun she was and down for ANYTHING, but it started getting boring and routine near the end.
Just like some of the other posts i read, I notice a lot of fkbuddies were the crazy/passionate type too, is this just coincidence?pdx1138 said:
Are crazy girls doomed to be stuck in non-serious relationships or do these kinds of relationships only happen to those types of girls?
Yea, these are things i tend to think about.
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i think its a trend, easily correlated because if they are cool with being fckbuddies they usually are insane and have had daddy issues in the past or just issues lol. My last fckbuddy was INSANE. She was into hardcore punishment stuff, kind of creepy almost. She liked to be abused a lot and had a bunch of family issues at home. However, she tried to date me and then i sliced it off there .r0cky said:
Crazy girls are only crazy because of some deep inter-rooted problem in their child hood. If someone can show me a fckbuddy relationship with a normal girl who hasnt had any family issues then i would be kind of shocked.
However they could just be more likely to pursue a FWB type thing, the insane ones. And the ones who are more quiet may want it but feel bad for attempting to start a FWB, so thats why you end up with slvts in those types of relationships. Just my 2 cents.