"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
How long do your fb's last?
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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I've had quite a few FBs in my lifetime. Obviously, they just fill a temporary need. Most FBs, for me at least, last 2-3 months. But I do have one, that I can call on wherever and whenever, for over a year and a half. Usually, my FB relationships end after I get into a committed relationship or they seek one from me and I decide that I don't want to go into that direction with them.
Really though, FBs are all temporary and they WILL end. When they do, never blame yourself. Eventually, she's going to want something more from you or find someone else from whom she will want something more from. It's at that point that you find out if you can move on or you realize that you've actually been more attached to her than you originally thought you were.
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emotional attachments on the guys side cause nothing but havoc on his mind.C-quenced said:
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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I think she thinks that is putting up a stand...?
I guess for it to last that long she must have had IL she also use to be on call when I had a gf..
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Longest on/off again: 2 years (whenever she was around basically)
Not all of them ended with a spiteful relationship-ultimatum, some just quietly fell off (they realized themselves what the situation was/found a guy that wanted a relationship/wanted to be celibate for a while/etc). I had no problem with them, at least they were honest
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Near the end she mentioned something about cutting me off in a few months as she had her eyes on another dude.
I cut her off at that point. Hot fiery passionate fun she was and down for ANYTHING, but it started getting boring and routine near the end.
Just like some of the other posts i read, I notice a lot of fkbuddies were the crazy/passionate type too, is this just coincidence?pdx1138 said:
Are crazy girls doomed to be stuck in non-serious relationships or do these kinds of relationships only happen to those types of girls?
Yea, these are things i tend to think about.
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i think its a trend, easily correlated because if they are cool with being fckbuddies they usually are insane and have had daddy issues in the past or just issues lol. My last fckbuddy was INSANE. She was into hardcore punishment stuff, kind of creepy almost. She liked to be abused a lot and had a bunch of family issues at home. However, she tried to date me and then i sliced it off there .r0cky said:
Crazy girls are only crazy because of some deep inter-rooted problem in their child hood. If someone can show me a fckbuddy relationship with a normal girl who hasnt had any family issues then i would be kind of shocked.
However they could just be more likely to pursue a FWB type thing, the insane ones. And the ones who are more quiet may want it but feel bad for attempting to start a FWB, so thats why you end up with slvts in those types of relationships. Just my 2 cents.