"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
How long do your fb's last?
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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I've had quite a few FBs in my lifetime. Obviously, they just fill a temporary need. Most FBs, for me at least, last 2-3 months. But I do have one, that I can call on wherever and whenever, for over a year and a half. Usually, my FB relationships end after I get into a committed relationship or they seek one from me and I decide that I don't want to go into that direction with them.
Really though, FBs are all temporary and they WILL end. When they do, never blame yourself. Eventually, she's going to want something more from you or find someone else from whom she will want something more from. It's at that point that you find out if you can move on or you realize that you've actually been more attached to her than you originally thought you were.
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emotional attachments on the guys side cause nothing but havoc on his mind.C-quenced said:
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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I think she thinks that is putting up a stand...?
I guess for it to last that long she must have had IL she also use to be on call when I had a gf..
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Longest on/off again: 2 years (whenever she was around basically)
Not all of them ended with a spiteful relationship-ultimatum, some just quietly fell off (they realized themselves what the situation was/found a guy that wanted a relationship/wanted to be celibate for a while/etc). I had no problem with them, at least they were honest
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Near the end she mentioned something about cutting me off in a few months as she had her eyes on another dude.
I cut her off at that point. Hot fiery passionate fun she was and down for ANYTHING, but it started getting boring and routine near the end.
Just like some of the other posts i read, I notice a lot of fkbuddies were the crazy/passionate type too, is this just coincidence?pdx1138 said:
Are crazy girls doomed to be stuck in non-serious relationships or do these kinds of relationships only happen to those types of girls?
Yea, these are things i tend to think about.
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i think its a trend, easily correlated because if they are cool with being fckbuddies they usually are insane and have had daddy issues in the past or just issues lol. My last fckbuddy was INSANE. She was into hardcore punishment stuff, kind of creepy almost. She liked to be abused a lot and had a bunch of family issues at home. However, she tried to date me and then i sliced it off there .r0cky said:
Crazy girls are only crazy because of some deep inter-rooted problem in their child hood. If someone can show me a fckbuddy relationship with a normal girl who hasnt had any family issues then i would be kind of shocked.
However they could just be more likely to pursue a FWB type thing, the insane ones. And the ones who are more quiet may want it but feel bad for attempting to start a FWB, so thats why you end up with slvts in those types of relationships. Just my 2 cents.