say you approach a girl and she seems uninterested. As a dj, how long do you stay and try to make her interest in u or do you just eject inmediately. If so, then being a DJ is just about being able to approach many girls and finding attraction instead of creating it.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
how long do you stay?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Dapper Swindler
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What harm could it cause by continuing to DJ her? Either she becomes impressed by your confidence and starts to warm up to you, or she becomes increasingly annoyed by you. If you can put up with the rejection of the latter, then I don't see any reason to eject.
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I think it would be AFCish to put up with sh** and not be intimidated by people. If you're putting up with her b****y behavior in a desperate attempt to get her interest then I suppose that would be AFC. But if she acts uninterested and you simply don't care what she thinks because of your confidence, then that would be fine. That makes sense to me, but I may be wrong on this one.
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It does depend on the situation but there is usually a warm up period. When anyone walks up to anyone there is a period of wanting to know what is going on.
Imagine if the hottest woman or the oddest woman or the most average woman in the world started talking to you. How would you respond? Somebody talks about pacing the situation. They use it for a different purpose but the idea behind it applies here.
Let her adjust to what is happening. Let her determine what you want her to think is going on. In some situations you will have to do both sides of the conversation for a while.
Because there are so many factors that contribute to how long you could spend it's hard to give a specific time answer.
I think this might be a time to fall back on the idea that you are qualifying her. Once you have gotten a feel for what she is about she has probably figured out what she needs to know about you too. If she isn't warming at this point, move on.
Unless you want a pretty face attached to what you are essentially masturbating with. In that case try some of the seriously unethical SS stuff on her and see if that works.
Imagine if the hottest woman or the oddest woman or the most average woman in the world started talking to you. How would you respond? Somebody talks about pacing the situation. They use it for a different purpose but the idea behind it applies here.
Let her adjust to what is happening. Let her determine what you want her to think is going on. In some situations you will have to do both sides of the conversation for a while.
Because there are so many factors that contribute to how long you could spend it's hard to give a specific time answer.
I think this might be a time to fall back on the idea that you are qualifying her. Once you have gotten a feel for what she is about she has probably figured out what she needs to know about you too. If she isn't warming at this point, move on.
Unless you want a pretty face attached to what you are essentially masturbating with. In that case try some of the seriously unethical SS stuff on her and see if that works.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.