say you approach a girl and she seems uninterested. As a dj, how long do you stay and try to make her interest in u or do you just eject inmediately. If so, then being a DJ is just about being able to approach many girls and finding attraction instead of creating it.
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how long do you stay?
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What harm could it cause by continuing to DJ her? Either she becomes impressed by your confidence and starts to warm up to you, or she becomes increasingly annoyed by you. If you can put up with the rejection of the latter, then I don't see any reason to eject.
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I think it would be AFCish to put up with sh** and not be intimidated by people. If you're putting up with her b****y behavior in a desperate attempt to get her interest then I suppose that would be AFC. But if she acts uninterested and you simply don't care what she thinks because of your confidence, then that would be fine. That makes sense to me, but I may be wrong on this one.
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It does depend on the situation but there is usually a warm up period. When anyone walks up to anyone there is a period of wanting to know what is going on.
Imagine if the hottest woman or the oddest woman or the most average woman in the world started talking to you. How would you respond? Somebody talks about pacing the situation. They use it for a different purpose but the idea behind it applies here.
Let her adjust to what is happening. Let her determine what you want her to think is going on. In some situations you will have to do both sides of the conversation for a while.
Because there are so many factors that contribute to how long you could spend it's hard to give a specific time answer.
I think this might be a time to fall back on the idea that you are qualifying her. Once you have gotten a feel for what she is about she has probably figured out what she needs to know about you too. If she isn't warming at this point, move on.
Unless you want a pretty face attached to what you are essentially masturbating with. In that case try some of the seriously unethical SS stuff on her and see if that works.
Imagine if the hottest woman or the oddest woman or the most average woman in the world started talking to you. How would you respond? Somebody talks about pacing the situation. They use it for a different purpose but the idea behind it applies here.
Let her adjust to what is happening. Let her determine what you want her to think is going on. In some situations you will have to do both sides of the conversation for a while.
Because there are so many factors that contribute to how long you could spend it's hard to give a specific time answer.
I think this might be a time to fall back on the idea that you are qualifying her. Once you have gotten a feel for what she is about she has probably figured out what she needs to know about you too. If she isn't warming at this point, move on.
Unless you want a pretty face attached to what you are essentially masturbating with. In that case try some of the seriously unethical SS stuff on her and see if that works.
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