"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How long before you can ask again?

lxr

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This is actually more of a specific situation than a general rule.

I went on one date with a girl sophomore year, and it wasn't too much fun so we didn't do anything else. Easy to move on of course.

Now it is senior year and I see her around a lot (similar classes and what not). first of all she's way cuter now, and second of all she seems to like me.

Normally I wouldn't care about "risking" anything when asking a girl out (or making a move at least), but I'm afraid in this situation it would seriously hurt my game at my HS if freaked her out trying to start something again.

1. just do it
2. ask friends
3. try to judge her reactions (not my forte)

thanks!
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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If you think she likes you then she most likely does. And if she doesn't its not a big deal.

Always assume attraction, go and talk to her. Who cares what happened two years ago? I am hooking up with girls form freshman year, I'm a senior as well, that thought I was weird as hell. Its an awesome feeling to know how far you have come!
 

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i just didn't wanna seem creepy :) but i'm actually really proud of how much i've grown, so it'll be pretty cool to see what happens haha.

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Act like the first date NEVER HAPPENED. I'm very serious.
Never bring it up it isn't relevant. Talk to her, (NOT CALL!) plenty of Kino
from the start. Be sexual. No confusing LJBF thoughts or body language.
You are the man. The fracking MAN! And you are going to do her the
small favor of a little attention.

As a man you have a plan. You are going to do something fun and
as a favor, since you are feeling generous, you are inviting her along.
She comes / she doesn't no big deal. You will go [____your plan___]
and have a blast doing it.

Now Go ...... Do.....
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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jtlancer said:
As a man you have a plan. You are going to do something fun and
as a favor, since you are feeling generous, you are inviting her along.
She comes / she doesn't no big deal. You will go [____your plan___]
and have a blast doing it.
Lancer has done his reading haha. It's a state of mind, act like you're going to have fun no matter what, she can come along, or she can't, it doesn't really matter to you since you're such a stud and interesting person, you've got millions of other things you could be doing instead of hanging out with her. Maybe it's hanging with friends, read/watching a movie, reading sosuave, going to the mall to pick up other chicks...what ev. Either way, you're the man, and you don't need her.but she's still nice to have :p
 

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haha thanks guys. I AM the man, right? right! I guess if i find myself about to do something fun i'll give her the chance to tag along. I'll update here if it's interesting
 
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