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She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

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How long after 1st date do you wait to call?

MikeEdward1973

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Normally, if I meet up on a Friday, I'll call on a Monday. If it's a Saturday, I'll still call on a Monday.

Someone said earlier they wait 5 days.

Do you guys suggest waiting until, say, Wednesday?

A bit of context: I'm 34, most of the women I'm talking about are 27 to 32, working professionals, etc.
 

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You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Depends on the phase of the moon. Y'know the moon has an effect on a woman's cycle.
 

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MikeEdward1973 said:
Normally, if I meet up on a Friday, I'll call on a Monday. If it's a Saturday, I'll still call on a Monday.

Someone said earlier they wait 5 days.

Do you guys suggest waiting until, say, Wednesday?

A bit of context: I'm 34, most of the women I'm talking about are 27 to 32, working professionals, etc.
I think you are supposed to call the next day or maximum 2 days after the date.

I made the mistake once of waiting until I saw the girl in class on Tuesday (we went out on Saturday night) and she lost interest because of it.
 

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Yeah 5 days is way too long ...makes you look like a player, nobody is so busy they can't make a 30 second phone call ...

women try and play this " sorry I did not call , I was busy " to me that means not interested or game player ...sorry my friend trix are for kids and I don't look like a damn rabbit

waiting after the weekend I can see ....

:rockon:
 

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Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Depends on the phase of the moon. Y'know the moon has an effect on a woman's cycle.
Which moon do you use? If I'm a bit in debt, more then I would like, for that month to go by the phase of Io. If I'm feeling a bit timid and I'm afraid to call I'll go with Phobos.

At any rate, there's only one moon that's important --->:moon:
 

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Bible_Belt said:
What if you have sex on the first date? How does that change things?
Depends on when you end up going home. Rule of thumb:

That night = the next day
Next morning = 2-3 days.
 

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mahon83050 said:
I think you are supposed to call the next day or maximum 2 days after the date.

I made the mistake once of waiting until I saw the girl in class on Tuesday (we went out on Saturday night) and she lost interest because of it.
I think then I'll stick with 2 to 3 days.
 

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Aenigma said:
Depends on when you end up going home. Rule of thumb:

That night = the next day
Next morning = 2-3 days.

OK, thanks. That's kind of what I thought. I bailed after sex, and I was going to call her late tonight.
 

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The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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MikeEdward1973 said:
most of the women I'm talking about are 27 to 32, working professionals, etc.
Ah ! this is your lucky day Mikey -

Some FREE insight for ya - "working professionals" are great to date in the first few months. They are in 'career' mode during the day - all work and sooooo serious, and they usually work long hours .
So any little snippets of romantic FUN and or ****y funny stuff that you can email to 'em during the day is eagerly comsumed by them . I love those women who are ALL business in their striped suits . You know the ones; hair slicked back and striding along like the deputy principal coming down the hall.
The trick is to play with their girly side while they are at work . Don't discuss their work.they get enough of shop talk- get some ideas from David D and "go out to play " with them.

Good hunting .
 

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jophil28 said:
Ah ! this is your lucky day Mikey -

Some FREE insight for ya - "working professionals" are great to date in the first few months. They are in 'career' mode during the day - all work and sooooo serious, and they usually work long hours .
So any little snippets of romantic FUN and or ****y funny stuff that you can email to 'em during the day is eagerly comsumed by them . I love those women who are ALL business in their striped suits . You know the ones; hair slicked back and striding along like the deputy principal coming down the hall.
The trick is to play with their girly side while they are at work . Don't discuss their work.they get enough of shop talk- get some ideas from David D and "go out to play " with them.

Good hunting .
Ok, got it. note to self: stop harping on work.

Should I ask who David D is?
 

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Aenigma said:
Which moon do you use? If I'm a bit in debt, more then I would like, for that month to go by the phase of Io. If I'm feeling a bit timid and I'm afraid to call I'll go with Phobos.

At any rate, there's only one moon that's important --->:moon:
Alright, just as long as you don't tell any Uranus jokes.
 
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