Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Ok, you make a good point. In the analogy about a straight woman getting attention from a guy younger than she'd like, at least he's from her preferred gender (whereas a gay guy giving me attention isn't even my preferred gender)
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You have your answer here
Yeah, definitely avoid prison.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Having both women and men (straight & gay) compliment my looks. I must assume there is some overlap.
The overlap stops at the fact of the orientation of the person. You can't compare a gay person's measurement of attraction to a non-gay person. Nor is a gay man and a woman comparable. Different brains, different genders.
Finally we agree on something: A woman takes rejection much worse than a man does.
I get called cute a lot. Interestingly, the last woman I had non-escort sex with described me as cute. So did the woman who took my v-card (she was also a non-escort). My point: It's possible to get cooch from a woman who describes you as cute.
Hmm, I'm intrigued to hear older women might not disqualify me based on submissiveness (and even more intrigued at the idea of watching a senior citizen woman pee)
On that general topic, here's one double standard that pisses me off:
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
I'm not sure that's my cup of tea.
I meant to address these images.
Na man, cops are not the epitome of manliness. They are the epitome of a guy being seen as a weasel
There's a lot of anti-cop sentiment, no doubt. That being said, at a store I worked at in the past, some of the female employees got a wide-on when hot young cops would come in as customers (One female employee was undocumented. You'd think she'd hate cops. Yet even she couldn't help but be attracted to cops)
Talking about exceptions does not mean that this is the norm
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
