How is complimenting "needy"

[rrrrr]

Can someone explain how you are "needy" and "needy for approval" when you give compliments?

 

[SamTheHobit]

I don't see how compliments are needy.

If anything giving complements shows you have value.

 

[Starrie]

The value of compliments depends on context and frequency.

Complimenting too much is like being a clown and constantly laying on the jokes, especially via text. It's begging for a reaction and she sees that. Try attaching compliments to other things so that they aren't so glaring and 'ta-da, look at me'.

Ex:
HER: To be honest, I'm usually into men a little older than you lol.
YOU: To be honest I normally go for girls [her age range]. The conversation is just better. You look like you're [four years younger than she is], but I'll let it slide.

 

[The Gambler]

The value of compliments depends on context and frequency.

Complimenting too much is like being a clown and constantly laying on the jokes, especially via text. It's begging for a reaction and she sees that. Try attaching compliments to other things so that they aren't so glaring and 'ta-da, look at me'.

Ex:
HER: To be honest, I'm usually into men a little older than you lol.
YOU: To be honest I normally go for girls [her age range]. The conversation is just better. You look like you're [four years younger than she is], but I'll let it slide.

^^^^ Good stuff right here.

The older you get, the more weight compliments seem to carry.... Especially as you learn to be more subtle and observant with your compliments. Women LOVE IT when you notice small details about their appearance and personalities.

Trying to shove a rose down a woman's throat while telling her she's the finest b!tch in the club ain't the way to do it, fo' sho'.

 

[Boilermaker]

Note the difference between the word

compliment

and

complement.

You guys are meaning to have an intellectual discussion. Write intellectually, then.

 

[cola]

Note the difference between the word

compliment

and

complement.

You guys are meaning to have an intellectual discussion. Write intellectually, then.

Dude, they are trying to improve their game, not grammer *****ng relax.
Good post, good replies good stuff.

 

[VladPatton]

Too many compliments show desperation, that you are kissing her aṣṣ, and that you want to bang her while offering dıck on a silver platter. Ease it up, reduce them, and be more detailed about them. The Gambler is right with the observatory compliments.

For example, I once complimented a chick on how her nail color matches her shirt. Bıtch, loved it, was giddy with an "oh you noticed!" vibe. Be like a spy and notice everything so you can be unique with your rare, but well chosen, compliment.

 

[muscleman]

Rule of thumb:

A compliment IS needy when you expect reciprocation of any kind.

*A compliment IS NOT needy when you don't expect reciprocation of any kind.

*Caveat: too many seemingly undeserved compliments (as perceived by the receiver, not you) greatly reduces the chance of any sexually favorable actions towards you, whether that's your goal or not.

Complimenting can be a great game tool, if used properly. There's a boring, cliche way to compliment ('you look beautiful tonight') and a fun, teasing way to do it ('I like your hair, can't wait to pull it').

 

[Dryden]

('I like your hair, can't wait to pull it').

remembering that one lol.

now translate it to my mother tongue because my confidence is messed up (I'm way more confident in English than in Dutch at least in written language because I've read so much pua gaming stuff.)

"Ik vind je haar leuk, kan niet wachten om er aan te trekken."

Funny thing is that "trekken" alludes to masturbation as well.

Like saying to a girl. "I want to hug you all night long."

lol! maybe a bit too obvious? ;-)