"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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You are dating a girl who is "noticeably" better looking than you.

I know all this DJ stuff says looks don't matter that much and you may be right. However, how does a man NOT feel uncomfortable when MOST other people are noticing you are a mismatched couple or when better looking guys (in their feeling superior to you) will purposely hit on your girl in front of you.

I am NOT talking about me, but I guess other guys that I see who are overweight or have double chins, hook noses, etc.

These guys might be able to get an attractive woman based on confidence, but I don't think they would feel quite secure once they did.

For the purpose of OUR OWN mental-well being you are really better off dating a women close in your looks range.

Just a thought.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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stuka1939 said:
You are dating a girl who is "noticeably" better looking than you.

I know all this DJ stuff says looks don't matter that much and you may be right. However, how does a man NOT feel uncomfortable when MOST other people are noticing you are a mismatched couple or when better looking guys (in their feeling superior to you) will purposely hit on your girl in front of you.

I am NOT talking about me, but I guess other guys that I see who are overweight or have double chins, hook noses, etc.

These guys might be able to get an attractive woman based on confidence, but I don't think they would feel quite secure once they did.

For the purpose of OUR OWN mental-well being you are really better off dating a women close in your looks range.

Just a thought.
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I doubt a guy could really get a girl if he wouldn't feel comfortable with her. At least not reliably. You gotta REALLY think you are the sh'it.
 
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For the purpose of OUR OWN mental-well being you are really better off dating a women close in your looks range.
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I would, but those HB10s can be really b!tchy sometimes...
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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stuka1939 said:
You are dating a girl who is "noticeably" better looking than you.

I know all this DJ stuff says looks don't matter that much and you may be right. However, how does a man NOT feel uncomfortable when MOST other people are noticing you are a mismatched couple or when better looking guys (in their feeling superior to you) will purposely hit on your girl in front of you.

I am NOT talking about me, but I guess other guys that I see who are overweight or have double chins, hook noses, etc.

These guys might be able to get an attractive woman based on confidence, but I don't think they would feel quite secure once they did.

For the purpose of OUR OWN mental-well being you are really better off dating a women close in your looks range.

Just a thought.
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I should be able to answer your question with this simple quote that I love:

“Size matters not, ... Look at me. Judge me by size, do you?” - Master Yoda

Dude there's so much more to a man than his looks, I haven't near the energy this time at night (for me) to write a dissertation on the myriad of other attributes that can make a man desirable. You did list "confidence". One down; about 1000 to go!
 
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because those guys have genuine self-esteem and don't get ridiculously insecure about how unsymmetric their face is

have you guys ever noticed that what makes an insecurity an insecurity is the fact you openly treat it as such? people are mirrors and will respond to you in the way you assume they'll respond to you. all you guys hung up over your looks would improve 100 times fold if you could let go of that limiting belief

as opposed to posting about it everyday and how the world sucks because you're short (meanwhile there are guys that are half a foot shorter than you getting laid)

get over it already
 
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WHAT? STUK DAT!

Must you always post controversially? And consistently place woman on pedestals?
 
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Dude your got problems.

These guys aren't gonna keep the girl if they are insecure about it so if they manage to keep her they obviously don't give a fck.

If your thinking like that you place way to much value on looks and have your own inner problems you need to work out before you even think about getting a girl.

I would, but those HB10s can be really b!tchy sometimes...
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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