"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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You are dating a girl who is "noticeably" better looking than you.

I know all this DJ stuff says looks don't matter that much and you may be right. However, how does a man NOT feel uncomfortable when MOST other people are noticing you are a mismatched couple or when better looking guys (in their feeling superior to you) will purposely hit on your girl in front of you.

I am NOT talking about me, but I guess other guys that I see who are overweight or have double chins, hook noses, etc.

These guys might be able to get an attractive woman based on confidence, but I don't think they would feel quite secure once they did.

For the purpose of OUR OWN mental-well being you are really better off dating a women close in your looks range.

Just a thought.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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stuka1939 said:
You are dating a girl who is "noticeably" better looking than you.

I know all this DJ stuff says looks don't matter that much and you may be right. However, how does a man NOT feel uncomfortable when MOST other people are noticing you are a mismatched couple or when better looking guys (in their feeling superior to you) will purposely hit on your girl in front of you.

I am NOT talking about me, but I guess other guys that I see who are overweight or have double chins, hook noses, etc.

These guys might be able to get an attractive woman based on confidence, but I don't think they would feel quite secure once they did.

For the purpose of OUR OWN mental-well being you are really better off dating a women close in your looks range.

Just a thought.
Someone finally ban this clown...
 

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I doubt a guy could really get a girl if he wouldn't feel comfortable with her. At least not reliably. You gotta REALLY think you are the sh'it.
 

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stuka1939 said:
For the purpose of OUR OWN mental-well being you are really better off dating a women close in your looks range.
I would, but those HB10s can be really b!tchy sometimes...
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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stuka1939 said:
You are dating a girl who is "noticeably" better looking than you.

I know all this DJ stuff says looks don't matter that much and you may be right. However, how does a man NOT feel uncomfortable when MOST other people are noticing you are a mismatched couple or when better looking guys (in their feeling superior to you) will purposely hit on your girl in front of you.

I am NOT talking about me, but I guess other guys that I see who are overweight or have double chins, hook noses, etc.

These guys might be able to get an attractive woman based on confidence, but I don't think they would feel quite secure once they did.

For the purpose of OUR OWN mental-well being you are really better off dating a women close in your looks range.

Just a thought.
I should be able to answer your question with this simple quote that I love:

“Size matters not, ... Look at me. Judge me by size, do you?” - Master Yoda

Dude there's so much more to a man than his looks, I haven't near the energy this time at night (for me) to write a dissertation on the myriad of other attributes that can make a man desirable. You did list "confidence". One down; about 1000 to go!
 

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because those guys have genuine self-esteem and don't get ridiculously insecure about how unsymmetric their face is

have you guys ever noticed that what makes an insecurity an insecurity is the fact you openly treat it as such? people are mirrors and will respond to you in the way you assume they'll respond to you. all you guys hung up over your looks would improve 100 times fold if you could let go of that limiting belief

as opposed to posting about it everyday and how the world sucks because you're short (meanwhile there are guys that are half a foot shorter than you getting laid)

get over it already
 

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WHAT? STUK DAT!

Must you always post controversially? And consistently place woman on pedestals?
 

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Dude your got problems.

These guys aren't gonna keep the girl if they are insecure about it so if they manage to keep her they obviously don't give a fck.

If your thinking like that you place way to much value on looks and have your own inner problems you need to work out before you even think about getting a girl.

I would, but those HB10s can be really b!tchy sometimes...
Abam bam psss
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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