"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How important is social media proof?

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If you have an instagram, and only 1-6 people like your pics, will that be a turnoff to women?

She might think I'm some lonely guy with no personality.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Seriously? this sounds like something a woman would be concerned about.
 

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If you are going to use social media then make sure you have a good presence otherwise just don't do it.

A while ago I pulled up my fbook account on an anonymous computer. I tuned what was visible to represent me the way I wanted to be represented.

So for example when someone you don't know looks at your profile it shows them the top 5 of your "likes", the rest are hidden. So I made sure the first 5 represented me properly. I left the more radical/controversial "likes" at the bottom so they would not show to the public. Like that if someone looks me up they can't tell i'm a total left wing liberal wack job.
 

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AttackFormation said:
Seriously? this sounds like something a woman would be concerned about.
Which is why I made this thread, genius.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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SeymourCake said:
Which is why I made this thread, genius.
My point was why would you care what some broad thinks of you based on how many followers or likes or whatever **** you have on instagram? what kind of person would sit and worry about that, is that who you want to be? *shrug* I guess if knowing helps you get laid more then sure...
 

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f8ck instagram delete that sh1t and f8ck social proof, be confident, blow her with your DJ game and f8ck her good, thatz it
 

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TheGambino said:
f8ck instagram delete that sh1t and f8ck social proof, be confident, blow her with your DJ game and f8ck her good, thatz it
f*ck social proof in general? Wouldn't that hurt me?
 

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Social media (facebook/instagram/twitter/ whatever the next big thing is) is an invention for women. and we all know that what women really look for on social media sites is Validation and nothing else.

As a man you should be out there doing some adventurous sh!ts and become more interesting as a person every passing day.

if you really care about what other people think about you especially on social media sh!tholes then you have a lot of work to do to become a real man/DJ.

girls are boring as fvck. that's why they seek validation from online attention whoring.
don't be another pvssy who's seeking validation from others like an attention male hoe.
 

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No. I mean don't let it count, it shouldn't bother you to the point that you make a thread about it and relate your ''lowlikecount'' to the plate youre gaming.

A Don Juan doesn't care if his Instagram page isn't filled with gay pictures of idiots with skinny jeans, uggly tattoos, stupid quotes and thousands of followers. You're a confident guy that blows her mind at the actual date, offcourse you can use Facebook and stuff but don't let it count. Don't relate social proof to girls, thats just bullsh1t man. Offcourse a girl will look you up on Facebook and judge your pictures and profile but don't let it count, understand just blow her mind on stage if you know what I mean. And Instagram is just g@y if you ask me.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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^^ two eye opening posts there. Thanks.

Yeah, f*ck instagram. I only use it to look at dope cars, fitness meals, and occasionally fit women.
 

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if a man has an instagram, that's concerning. instagram is for women.
 

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So now there's gender roles on phone apps now?
 

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Pulled my FB on Monday. Tbh I'm sick of people making ****ty convo with me based on their perception of me from FB.

So I'm looking forward to the mystery that comes from being "off the grid". But I'm kinda wondering whether my social life will die as a result...
 

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I think the big thing here is first building an actual solid social network i.e. having lots of friends and colleagues. It then is an avenue where you are invited to things and photo's get taken and you get tagged and then social media posts it. This is better than you taking a photo of your cat and headlining it 'lol.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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JohnnyStorm said:
Pulled my FB on Monday. Tbh I'm sick of people making ****ty convo with me based on their perception of me from FB.

So I'm looking forward to the mystery that comes from being "off the grid". But I'm kinda wondering whether my social life will die as a result...

you will be back on soon. being off fb is worse than being on, as i have concluded. you just have to "check" yourself to make sure you don't go on 10 times a day. if you only worry about your TRUE friends and don't compare yourself, you'll be fine.
 

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SeymourCake said:
If you have an instagram, and only 1-6 people like your pics, will that be a turnoff to women?

She might think I'm some lonely guy with no personality.
Do yourself a favor, close your instagram account.
 

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TheGambino said:
f8ck instagram delete that sh1t and f8ck social proof, be confident, blow her with your DJ game and f8ck her good, thatz it
Look, I'm going to be honest here. Your statement might be convincing if we didn't already know the kind of guy you are judging by previous posts.

You come across as quite a sensitive chap so these words coming from you do not resonate. Not to mention talking like this sounds fairly retarded.
 
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