the_govner
Don Juan
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and If you've already had a personal trainer (assuming good again), would you go back to working out alone even tho you can afford a PT?
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I have no clue why but I LOVE being the best in my gym,for anything under 28ish. When I see people who come close to catching my physique it pushes me harder,not trying to catch anyone else. Cause for me the only cats that I need to catch up to are the 28+,and there is nothing I can do to catch up to the dude that's have been lifting for 10+ years.....there is no substitute for time.Colossus said:It's easy to feel like Captain Mighty Balls when you are the strongest guy in the gym, but go to a place where almost everyone is stronger than you---and you will work your as$ off to catch up. You wont slack, you will feel like your lifts are sub-par instead of amazing, and you will push yourself farther than you ever did when you were the 'big man'. That's one reason why Westside lifters have been so successful---they all train amongst the strongest lifters in the world.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.