the_govner
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and If you've already had a personal trainer (assuming good again), would you go back to working out alone even tho you can afford a PT?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
How important is a (good) personal trainer for results?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
blinkwatt101
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Personal trainer...meh....
I've had a ton of gym partners come and go. The constant are my headphones and I.
I've had a ton of gym partners come and go. The constant are my headphones and I.
Drum&Bass
Master Don Juan
I thought I mastered every movement conceived..and thought I had a solid grasp on optimal kinesiology, then came my new friend and work out partner
Dave Ricks
He made slight tweaks to all of my "big 3 lifts" which opened a whole new door to biomechanics and the way I train.
Tiny changes from someone who had years of experience made a significant difference.
A good trainer/teacher/friend/expert etc. is EXTREMELY IMPORTANT if you care enough to want to learn how to do things perfectly or at least from a different perspective.
Dave Ricks
He made slight tweaks to all of my "big 3 lifts" which opened a whole new door to biomechanics and the way I train.
Tiny changes from someone who had years of experience made a significant difference.
A good trainer/teacher/friend/expert etc. is EXTREMELY IMPORTANT if you care enough to want to learn how to do things perfectly or at least from a different perspective.
Colossus
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It depends on your level of dedication. Really, if you are an adult and at least sort of smart, you can do your own research and implement your own programs. Many people NEED a trainer to push them through the workouts and to motivate them. That is really what they are for.
I will say this, though: If you train in the company of guys who are better than you, you will make tons more progress than if you trained alone or with wimps. It's easy to feel like Captain Mighty Balls when you are the strongest guy in the gym, but go to a place where almost everyone is stronger than you---and you will work your as$ off to catch up. You wont slack, you will feel like your lifts are sub-par instead of amazing, and you will push yourself farther than you ever did when you were the 'big man'. That's one reason why Westside lifters have been so successful---they all train amongst the strongest lifters in the world.
I will say this, though: If you train in the company of guys who are better than you, you will make tons more progress than if you trained alone or with wimps. It's easy to feel like Captain Mighty Balls when you are the strongest guy in the gym, but go to a place where almost everyone is stronger than you---and you will work your as$ off to catch up. You wont slack, you will feel like your lifts are sub-par instead of amazing, and you will push yourself farther than you ever did when you were the 'big man'. That's one reason why Westside lifters have been so successful---they all train amongst the strongest lifters in the world.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
blinkwatt101
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I have no clue why but I LOVE being the best in my gym,for anything under 28ish. When I see people who come close to catching my physique it pushes me harder,not trying to catch anyone else. Cause for me the only cats that I need to catch up to are the 28+,and there is nothing I can do to catch up to the dude that's have been lifting for 10+ years.....there is no substitute for time.Colossus said:
Colossus
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Being the best is a great feeling. Everyone looks up to you, the trainers/owners respect you, and the girls ogle you. That in itself can be motivating because you want to stay on top and enjoy the attention.
From my experience I went from a gym where everyone would stop and watch me bench or deadlift to a gym where a 500 lb deadlift doesn't even turn a head. At first I was like "damn, this is a downer", but after a few weeks I made friends with some of the really strong guys and they give me advice on my lifts. Like any new place or club, you gotta earn your respect.
From my experience I went from a gym where everyone would stop and watch me bench or deadlift to a gym where a 500 lb deadlift doesn't even turn a head. At first I was like "damn, this is a downer", but after a few weeks I made friends with some of the really strong guys and they give me advice on my lifts. Like any new place or club, you gotta earn your respect.
The Muscle Expert
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If you can afford it, of course!
When I boxed, my boxing coach helped me out tremendously. I went from a flat footed punching bag to a smooth punching machine.
When I boxed, my boxing coach helped me out tremendously. I went from a flat footed punching bag to a smooth punching machine.
WC2
Master Don Juan
I'm a PT and honestly if you're self-motivated, it's not important at all.
There's more correct information out there on the internet than most personal trainers will tell you.
A good lifting partner, solid diet, and good routine will be worth much more to you than a PT; and cheaper nonetheless.
There's more correct information out there on the internet than most personal trainers will tell you.
A good lifting partner, solid diet, and good routine will be worth much more to you than a PT; and cheaper nonetheless.
I had a personal trainer when I first started and it was useful to have someone show me the proper way to do all of the movements and to work out a nice split for me but he didn't help me stay motivated or anything.
I would say if you need more insights about exercising, get one. If you want to stay motivated, lift with a friend.
I would say if you need more insights about exercising, get one. If you want to stay motivated, lift with a friend.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.