"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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How important is a (good) personal trainer for results?

the_govner

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and If you've already had a personal trainer (assuming good again), would you go back to working out alone even tho you can afford a PT?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Personal trainer...meh....

I've had a ton of gym partners come and go. The constant are my headphones and I.
 

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if you need one get a friend who knows about working out and workout together
 

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I thought I mastered every movement conceived..and thought I had a solid grasp on optimal kinesiology, then came my new friend and work out partner
Dave Ricks
He made slight tweaks to all of my "big 3 lifts" which opened a whole new door to biomechanics and the way I train.

Tiny changes from someone who had years of experience made a significant difference.

A good trainer/teacher/friend/expert etc. is EXTREMELY IMPORTANT if you care enough to want to learn how to do things perfectly or at least from a different perspective.
 

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It depends on your level of dedication. Really, if you are an adult and at least sort of smart, you can do your own research and implement your own programs. Many people NEED a trainer to push them through the workouts and to motivate them. That is really what they are for.

I will say this, though: If you train in the company of guys who are better than you, you will make tons more progress than if you trained alone or with wimps. It's easy to feel like Captain Mighty Balls when you are the strongest guy in the gym, but go to a place where almost everyone is stronger than you---and you will work your as$ off to catch up. You wont slack, you will feel like your lifts are sub-par instead of amazing, and you will push yourself farther than you ever did when you were the 'big man'. That's one reason why Westside lifters have been so successful---they all train amongst the strongest lifters in the world.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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blinkwatt101

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Colossus said:
It's easy to feel like Captain Mighty Balls when you are the strongest guy in the gym, but go to a place where almost everyone is stronger than you---and you will work your as$ off to catch up. You wont slack, you will feel like your lifts are sub-par instead of amazing, and you will push yourself farther than you ever did when you were the 'big man'. That's one reason why Westside lifters have been so successful---they all train amongst the strongest lifters in the world.
I have no clue why but I LOVE being the best in my gym,for anything under 28ish. When I see people who come close to catching my physique it pushes me harder,not trying to catch anyone else. Cause for me the only cats that I need to catch up to are the 28+,and there is nothing I can do to catch up to the dude that's have been lifting for 10+ years.....there is no substitute for time.
 

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Being the best is a great feeling. Everyone looks up to you, the trainers/owners respect you, and the girls ogle you. That in itself can be motivating because you want to stay on top and enjoy the attention.

From my experience I went from a gym where everyone would stop and watch me bench or deadlift to a gym where a 500 lb deadlift doesn't even turn a head. At first I was like "damn, this is a downer", but after a few weeks I made friends with some of the really strong guys and they give me advice on my lifts. Like any new place or club, you gotta earn your respect.
 
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If you can afford it, of course!

When I boxed, my boxing coach helped me out tremendously. I went from a flat footed punching bag to a smooth punching machine.
 

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I'm a PT and honestly if you're self-motivated, it's not important at all.

There's more correct information out there on the internet than most personal trainers will tell you.

A good lifting partner, solid diet, and good routine will be worth much more to you than a PT; and cheaper nonetheless.
 

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I had a personal trainer when I first started and it was useful to have someone show me the proper way to do all of the movements and to work out a nice split for me but he didn't help me stay motivated or anything.

I would say if you need more insights about exercising, get one. If you want to stay motivated, lift with a friend.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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