"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How hard is it to last long/be good your first time?

kraytkiller

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So I'm about to have sex with this girl, in the near future. Problem is it's been insinuated and hinted at, even a little admitted that I'm 'not a virgin'. She isn't a virgin -- though she's only had sex once, but I figure she'd know something was up if I last 30 seconds like the legends say.

So I ask you. How hard is it to last long and be good at sex your first time? I'll definitely have a condom on, so that'll help, I'm sure.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Five To One

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It varies man.
I didnt cvm my first time so everyone is different.

It depends on how confortable you are, if you have been drinking, etc
 

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Honestly, it can go either way. I know someone who didn't even penetrate before he finished. And on my first time I was so nervous I didn't finish.

It all depends on how your feeling, if your really excited about the whole thing, then you probably won't last long, but if your nervous like I was you'll probably have more trouble staying aroused than anything.

If it's only her second time then don't count on her knowing what's good and what isn't, it's highly unlikely she'll hate it as such.

Trick from me is to do other things, spend a lot of time on foreplay, kissing her neck, and then going down on her. If you do a good job doing that then she'll be so worked up that anything during sex will probably feel amazing.

One last thing, don't finger her too much unless she really shows she's enjoying it, often most girls who havn't had much sex find too much fingering starts to hurt and make them sore.

Most importanlty, be confident, and calm. And don't think being drunk will help your situation, more likely than not it'll just make things worse.
 

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Do kegels. They'll help you last a lot longer, depending on how long you've been doing them. Also, don't be too nervous, don't worry too much (easy to say ;)).

Spend lots of time on foreplay. If you get her to cvm before you've had sex, you're on a very good start.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Analyzeit

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You don't know till you do it your first time.

I with some of the other guys, i didn't even *** my first time or second but third time (no protection, i know guys it was stupid lol) I did, and now i *** every time at a good time. Maybe i'm just lucky but really you thinking way to much on it like 95% of guys will just be normal like i am.

Average 2 minutes?? Geeze i hope not i last much longer lol
 

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My first time, she was l o o s e so I didn't cvm for a while, but also, I used to jack it a LOT back then.
 

kraytkiller

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Thanks alot for all the tips and advice. I'm a rather unnaturally calm person, so I don't think I'll have an anxiety/nervousness issue, haha.

Doubt I'll drink for it either, so no worries there. And I occasionally work on kegels when I can, so I guess we'll just see how it goes.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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