"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How hard is it to last long/be good your first time?

kraytkiller

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So I'm about to have sex with this girl, in the near future. Problem is it's been insinuated and hinted at, even a little admitted that I'm 'not a virgin'. She isn't a virgin -- though she's only had sex once, but I figure she'd know something was up if I last 30 seconds like the legends say.

So I ask you. How hard is it to last long and be good at sex your first time? I'll definitely have a condom on, so that'll help, I'm sure.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Five To One

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It varies man.
I didnt cvm my first time so everyone is different.

It depends on how confortable you are, if you have been drinking, etc
 

Plec07

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Honestly, it can go either way. I know someone who didn't even penetrate before he finished. And on my first time I was so nervous I didn't finish.

It all depends on how your feeling, if your really excited about the whole thing, then you probably won't last long, but if your nervous like I was you'll probably have more trouble staying aroused than anything.

If it's only her second time then don't count on her knowing what's good and what isn't, it's highly unlikely she'll hate it as such.

Trick from me is to do other things, spend a lot of time on foreplay, kissing her neck, and then going down on her. If you do a good job doing that then she'll be so worked up that anything during sex will probably feel amazing.

One last thing, don't finger her too much unless she really shows she's enjoying it, often most girls who havn't had much sex find too much fingering starts to hurt and make them sore.

Most importanlty, be confident, and calm. And don't think being drunk will help your situation, more likely than not it'll just make things worse.
 

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Do kegels. They'll help you last a lot longer, depending on how long you've been doing them. Also, don't be too nervous, don't worry too much (easy to say ;)).

Spend lots of time on foreplay. If you get her to cvm before you've had sex, you're on a very good start.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Analyzeit

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You don't know till you do it your first time.

I with some of the other guys, i didn't even *** my first time or second but third time (no protection, i know guys it was stupid lol) I did, and now i *** every time at a good time. Maybe i'm just lucky but really you thinking way to much on it like 95% of guys will just be normal like i am.

Average 2 minutes?? Geeze i hope not i last much longer lol
 

Poonani Maker

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My first time, she was l o o s e so I didn't cvm for a while, but also, I used to jack it a LOT back then.
 

kraytkiller

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Thanks alot for all the tips and advice. I'm a rather unnaturally calm person, so I don't think I'll have an anxiety/nervousness issue, haha.

Doubt I'll drink for it either, so no worries there. And I occasionally work on kegels when I can, so I guess we'll just see how it goes.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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