"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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How hard is it to last long/be good your first time?

kraytkiller

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So I'm about to have sex with this girl, in the near future. Problem is it's been insinuated and hinted at, even a little admitted that I'm 'not a virgin'. She isn't a virgin -- though she's only had sex once, but I figure she'd know something was up if I last 30 seconds like the legends say.

So I ask you. How hard is it to last long and be good at sex your first time? I'll definitely have a condom on, so that'll help, I'm sure.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Five To One

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It varies man.
I didnt cvm my first time so everyone is different.

It depends on how confortable you are, if you have been drinking, etc
 

Plec07

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Honestly, it can go either way. I know someone who didn't even penetrate before he finished. And on my first time I was so nervous I didn't finish.

It all depends on how your feeling, if your really excited about the whole thing, then you probably won't last long, but if your nervous like I was you'll probably have more trouble staying aroused than anything.

If it's only her second time then don't count on her knowing what's good and what isn't, it's highly unlikely she'll hate it as such.

Trick from me is to do other things, spend a lot of time on foreplay, kissing her neck, and then going down on her. If you do a good job doing that then she'll be so worked up that anything during sex will probably feel amazing.

One last thing, don't finger her too much unless she really shows she's enjoying it, often most girls who havn't had much sex find too much fingering starts to hurt and make them sore.

Most importanlty, be confident, and calm. And don't think being drunk will help your situation, more likely than not it'll just make things worse.
 

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Do kegels. They'll help you last a lot longer, depending on how long you've been doing them. Also, don't be too nervous, don't worry too much (easy to say ;)).

Spend lots of time on foreplay. If you get her to cvm before you've had sex, you're on a very good start.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Analyzeit

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You don't know till you do it your first time.

I with some of the other guys, i didn't even *** my first time or second but third time (no protection, i know guys it was stupid lol) I did, and now i *** every time at a good time. Maybe i'm just lucky but really you thinking way to much on it like 95% of guys will just be normal like i am.

Average 2 minutes?? Geeze i hope not i last much longer lol
 

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My first time, she was l o o s e so I didn't cvm for a while, but also, I used to jack it a LOT back then.
 

kraytkiller

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Thanks alot for all the tips and advice. I'm a rather unnaturally calm person, so I don't think I'll have an anxiety/nervousness issue, haha.

Doubt I'll drink for it either, so no worries there. And I occasionally work on kegels when I can, so I guess we'll just see how it goes.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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